Women’s Dating Advice to Men
Most guys have, at one point or another, taken women's dating advice or suggestions on how to get a date or a girlfriend, etc.
But like any source of advice, most times, some is helpful.
Some isn't.
When it comes to women's dating advice, there are some strong considerations worth making. The main reason is that most women know what they think they DON'T want in a guy...
... but very few who know what they actually DO want.
So when you listen to women complain about what they don't like in men, the tendency for us men is to try to stop doing it or change it.
But the problem with taking women's dating advice this way IS the root of the problem.
Why?
Because taking women's advice to change yourself -- to put on a show or a great performance, hoping it'll impress her is setting yourself up to let her decide whether you're in or out...
... rather than you choosing whether she compliments YOUR life.
How Guys Usually Take Women’s Dating Advice
There are two routes in interpreting women's advice...
You can try to meet women's standards and forever be a slave to feminine validation... you can dress to please, you can act to please, and you can be motivated in a million ways to receive praise from women -- only to deny yourself.
But then you no longer own your life. Women do, for their standards now control your actions.
Or you can live by your own standards and find a woman who enjoys your world the way it is. You can dress the way you want, you can act the way you want, while calmly expecting a woman to accept you for who you are because you're being genuine.
And if a woman doesn't, you actually do yourself a favor by removing her from your life. Then, you're in control of your life.
If you interpret women's dating advice by taking the first route, you'll lose. But if you take the second route, you'll win. And here's why...
The Secret on Women’s Dating Advice...
What you'll discover by listening to what women don't like about men, is NOT the specifics or the details directly -- it's that men don't have a SOLID identity, that they're not grounded in who they are.
Transforming yourself to accommodate a woman's standards is what women despise about men. Really, it's not that we don't meet their standards.
Standards are ideals. And ideals are fantasies. They don't really exist outside the imagination. They're just fun for women to entertain.
No, what women really hate is when a guy bases his sense of worth on their standards -- when he alters his identity just to fit those standards.
Perhaps most women don't consciously understand why a guy is so repulsive. They just know there's something repulsive about him. So that's when they look for something to justify why they feel the way they do.
But the justification ISN'T the REAL reason. It's just what they use because they may not be able to consciously pinpoint the real reason.
The Real Reason Men are Repulsive to Women
For example... do you think that the real problem with this guy was his outfit -- or the fact that he buckled at the blogger's comments with embarrassment, which instantly communicated to her that his sense of self was dependant on her standards?
What if he would have mischievously said, "You've just got bad taste, my dear," then got up and walked away?
She would have been all over that... because he would have indirectly communicated that he lived by his own standard and anyone who disagreed with his style or decisions wasn't worth his time.
No, his outfit wasn't the real issue. It was that he felt ashamed of his choices because a woman disapproved of them.
That's the real kicker!
Marlon Brando, while performing in the Broadway performances of Streetcar Named Desire, comes to mind. It's said he would go weeks -- yes, weeks -- without showering (being a method actors, and all).
Wouldn't that have been a much bigger turn-off than an outfit that was a little bit off? But if you think he had any trouble with women, you're gravely mistaken.
The big factor in taking women's dating advice is to have the insight or wisdom to separate the REASONS from the JUSTIFICATIONS. That's where you'll find the real value in woman's dating advice.
And you can only do that when: you're taking women's advice NOT to impress them -- but to understand their side of the story.
That's when women's dating advice can be an invaluable asset.
