Why Women Are So Bitchy:
The Princess Persona
The mystery why women are so bitchy got you puzzled or frustrated? Losing your cool in situations with bitchy women? And the worst case scenario -- you actually find yourself bitching about women being bitchy?
Argh! Will the chaos ever end?
Bitchy women are irritating, aren't they? They seem to complain about every little thing, throw temper tantrums when they don't get their way, and demand whatever they please. What's more, they bring all this negativity to you.
Is it your problem? No. But do they seem to care? No.
I imagine you not only want to know why women are so bitchy, but more importantly, you want to know how to handle yourself in situations with bitchy women.
You want to stop being immobilized by their behavior. Forever!
You're about learn the real reason why women are so bitchy and the secrets to dealing with their bitchy behavior.
The Princess Persona is Just the Mask
The reason why women are so bitchy is because they've discovered it's an effective way for them to get what they want from others and from or in certain situations.
Their bitchy behavior is an act. It's a show. Nothing but a performance, really -- no matter how much of a habit it's become to them through repetitive use.
Let's call it the Princess Persona.
The Princess Persona is a mask they put on because they know it tends to get them certain responses from the majority of people. It sets up an image of power and authority.
Really, it's a bluff though. It's just an illusion, unless you believe it's real. And that's the catch! If you let their bitchy behavior effect you by giving them power over you -- whether by listening to their complaints or cowering at their emotional outbursts, they continue to use it.
But the moment you refuse to put up with it, it completely disappears.
Women are smart. When they notice something doesn't work with you, they stop trying it.
The reason why women are so bitchy is because it works very well in getting other people to conform to their agendas and the realities they live in, especially with guys who lack backbone.
But where did it all begin and why does it continue? There are two culprits behind why women are so bitchy...
Culprit #1: Nice Guy Dads and Bitchy Moms
The first culprit responsible for why women are so bitchy are their parents, starting at a very young age.
Habits formed in a woman's childhood have a tendency to become permanent -- or at least difficult to change -- for they become unconscious. Women may be aware of their bitchy attitudes but have little control over them.
It becomes an automatic reflex to things not going their way.
But why?
Not only do women model their mothers behavior and communication related to their fathers, who likely got whatever she wanted from him, they also adapt to the way their father treated them.
Nice Guy dads tend to treat their children from the exact same mindset as they treated their wife while they were courting her, especially their daughters. So just as Nice Guys supplicate to the woman they wanted, they also supplicate to their children later.
Is it any wonder women aren't attracted to Nice Guys? They jeopardize the emotional health of their future children. But Nature knows best.
Nice Guy dads give their daughters whatever they want, trying to buy their 'love' or acceptance. And when these daughters are given whatever they want, without them even having to ask (and not earning it), they begin expecting it from everyone as a result.
When they don't get what they want, they've also learned that by withdrawing approval by being bitchy, they can, most times, get what they want in the end.
Thus, a princess is born. This is the origin of why women are so bitchy. But it gets perpetuated later by the other culprit... the Nice Guy 'suitors'.
Culprit #2: Nice Guy Courtiers and Boyfriends
The second culprit responsible for why women are so bitchy are guys, especially Nice Guys, who give them special attention.
Have you ever noticed that, generally, the more attractive a woman, the more bitchy she tends to be? This is no surprise really, for she gets the most attention from guys, meaning more Nice Guys bring their supplicating behavior to them.
Nice Guys treat attractive women as if they were special.
Think about what it means to be special for a moment...
Has anyone ever treated you 'special'? You know, maybe gone out of their way for you or treated you as being 'better' than themselves? At first, you likely enjoyed the attention. But that soon changed, didn't it? In fact, eventually it probably aroused anger.
Why? You were no longer a person to them. Instead, you became some ideal they projected onto you, likely something you knew you weren't. Your purpose in their life was to fulfill THEIR fantasy or insecurities.
And how do you respond to something like that? You can't be yourself, that's for sure. What do you do? You mix anger with the benefits you get from them.
Now, maybe you haven't been in a situation like this. But imagine what it would be like. Imagine getting this special attention day in and day out, being treated like you're not even a person, yet getting many benefits from it at the same time.
This is exactly why women are so bitchy. Nice Guys behavior towards women give them valid reasons to continue acting out the Princess Persona. It becomes a matter of 'social survival'.
It's a way of disqualifying guys who are infected with the Spine Donor Syndrome. Women don't want them. Their bitchiness acts as a 'alarm system' to protect themselves against Nice Guys.
But stop treating women with special behavior, eradicate the Nice Guy within, and women completely change in response to you.
How to Handle Women’s Bitchiness
Have you ever noticed how there are some women, who are normally very bitchy, completely change around certain guys? It's almost as if she becomes a different woman when in his presence?
You've probably also noticed that these guys date a lot of women.
A connection? You bet!
These guys not only understand why women are so bitchy, they know how to handle it. They handle women's bitchiness by communicating past the Princess Persona. They communicate with the real person underneath by confronting the issue instead of the person.
Sound confusing? Not so much. Here's how you can do this...
When women bring you their bitchy attitudes, the real key is to not take it personally. You have to look at it as being HER issue. If you take her behavior personally, you're going to get irritable and blame her for it.
And even if it's just internally, she'll feel your blame. This will just amp up her bitchiness even more because she'll receive it as you not accepting her.
There's nothing women despise more than guys who can't handle them, then blame it on them instead of taking responsibility for themselves!
Now, have you ever found that you wanted to respond a certain way but when, in the moment, even though you knew how you wanted to respond, still responded the opposite?
I think we all have. And I believe it's the same with women's bitchiness.
No one likes to be blamed for something they do but find they have little control over, their 'negative' habits. So accept the bitchy attitude. Don't blame it when YOU don't know how to handle it.
By accepting it, I mean that when a woman tosses it your way, prevent yourself from responding by 'tightening up'. Instead, listen to it openly without reacting negatively internally. Let her blow her steam -- but just for a moment.
The reason is to give her enough time to realize that you can, and will, keep your calm in heated situations... and that you are listening. This becomes much easier now that you know why women are so bitchy.
You can be empathetic and accepting. But just because you accept her -- bitchy behavior and all -- doesn't mean you have to tolerate it.
There's a difference.
And only after you can accept women's bitchy behavior without judging it as wrong, bad, or immobilizing, can you shift the responsibility to where it belongs -- onto her, without it being unwelcomed.
Understanding why women are so bitchy creates the bridge to handling women's bitchiness. With that attitude, and responding calmly, the bitchiness soon evaporates from your interactions.
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Your Friend,
Jay Julio
