When it’s You Against the World...
Only once The World has beaten you to the ground in a bloody, bruised mess, do you really begin taking an honest look at yourself. For only when you do that will you realize that The World wasn't responsible for kicking you to the ground...
YOU were!
Few men in life not only recognize this truth but act on it. Most are blinded by arrogance, expecting The World to function according to how they expect it to rather than changing themselves to function according to how The World really operates.
To them, The World is unfair.
They expect The World to owe them what they want rather than earning it by aligning themselves with certain principles that welcome the opportunities.
Our lives are governed by two sets of principles or laws: Nature's and Man's.
Naturally, Nature's Laws rule, while Man's Laws are subordinate. And there lays the problem. When we believe The World is against us or out to get us, we've, perhaps unintentionally, adopted one of Man's Laws that CONTRADICTS Nature's.
I believe this is the basis for all our frustrations in Life.
What kind of guys remain frustrated with their lives until they die? Of course you know the answer to that... the Nice Guys.
You know the major difference between their approaches to dating, which is a mere reflection of their approach to life.
The critical difference between a Cool Guy's perspective on life and a Nice Guy's is that a Cool Guy realizes that if he's not getting what he wants, HE is the reason; but when a Nice Guy doesn't get what he wants, he falsely believes something or SOMEONE else is the reason.
Nice Guys are proud, while Cool Guys are humble.
Nice Guys tend to use The World as an excuse because they're too proud to admit that they are responsible for not getting what they want.
It's much easier to blame someone or something else rather than taking a truly deep and honest look at ourselves. For if we do, it's obvious... the problem is not 'out there' -- and neither is the solution!
It's 'in here' -- our minds, our thinking.
This applies to all major aspects from women and dating to careers and finances to well-being and health.
You'll find that Nice Guys blame women for their 'romantic relationship problems'.
When a woman just wants to be friends while instead she goes for the jerk, he thinks the woman is screwed up. When a woman cheats on him, he thinks a woman is disloyal. When a woman rejects or breaks up with him, he thinks she caused his misery and depression.
But does he ever consider that it was him who setup and established the kind of relationship he has with every woman he meets? Nope, he plays victim instead.
Next, you'll find that Nice Guys blame corporations or governments for their financial problems.
When he gets laid-off or fired, he thinks his employer destroyed his life. When he isn't paid as much as he thinks he should be for what he knows or how skilled he is, he thinks the corporate world is unjust. When he gets a raise and his tax bracket moves, he thinks the government is stealing his money.
But does he consider that he chose how he makes his living, and in doing so, whether he chose to investigate it or not, chose how much money he would make? Nope, forever a victim to 'the system'.
You'll also find that Nice Guys tend to blame uncontrollable circumstances for their poor health or lack of confidence.
When he encounters a chronic illness that 'runs in the family', he thinks it's solely genetics. When he suffers mental distresses, he thinks he inherited them from his parents.
Do they even think that just maybe whatever they're blaming and using as excuses have little to nothing to do with it? Do they consider that it's their own outlook that's the real problem -- not women, corporations, or ill health?
No way!
After all, they believe they're perfect and that they deserve something for nothing.
Instead, choose to be a Cool Guy -- choose to resolve that if something's not going the way you want it to in YOUR life, you are responsible. Your life is of your making, regardless of outer circumstances.
As Emerson said, "Circumstances don't create a man, they reveal him."
So when you find it's you against The World, remember that The World isn't out there -- it's in here (your mind).
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