Dealing with Trust Issues in Relationships with Women
Trust issues in relationships with women can be a big deal for many guys, and not necessarily without good reasons -- however, one thing is for certain...
... as long as you distrust a woman you're dating, you can't and won't be happy and at peace with yourself.
And that's what should be priority, assuming you want women in your life to increase your enjoyment, rather than fill you with worry and doubt.
And even though one thing both men and women agree on is that 'Women cannot be trusted', IF you understand and accept the following conditions (or natural truths about women), dealing with relationship trust issues takes on a renewed and empowering meaning...
A meaning where you CAN trust a woman.
It'll just be in a different, yet fully mature and responsible way.
Why Guys have Trust Issues in Relationships
Guys have trust issues in relationships because of the way they've been led to believe is acceptable behavior for women. Or in other words, they expect women to be and act different than the way women really are.
And those differences between their views and reality is the cause of having relationship trust issues, for they box women into their naive expectations...
... which actually prevents guys from seeing the 'big picture'.
For fearing judgment or condemnation, women won't reveal their true natures to the naive guys who have been misled.
Instead, they'll act according to his views around him, and then act as they please around guys who accept them for who they are.
Nice Guys tend to believe that they have a kind of ownership over their girlfriends, almost as if she were a possession. Rather than letting her have her freedom, they indirectly impose limiting boundaries on her.
Is it any wonder Nice Guys don't understand women and dating?
So who are women, really? And how does knowing this remove trust issues in relationships?
Women are Polygamous by Nature
Women aren't monogamous. Most relationship trust issues are due to guys thinking women are -- and domineeringly expecting their partner to be so.
It becomes obvious how this can create problems.
Since the Nice Guy view tends to paint women as fully committed and faithful partners -- some women may even believe this too -- but our natures, our instincts, always overrule our logical minds...
... even when we can't explain it ourselves.
This is why women cheat and then feel conflicted between their desire and their guilt; their nature says one thing, while their logic says the opposite.
Realizing and accepting that women are polygamous is a big step in overcoming trust issues in relationships, for you look at the entire relationship with different eyes...
You start seeing a woman as choosing to be with you and free to leave if or when she wants. You let go of being attached to a woman.
This removes the obligation and guilt factors, which allows for a truthful and meaningful connection.
You stop looking at the relationship as codependents, but rather as two independents sharing a moment in Life. And that's as far as you think.
She may be there tomorrow; she may not be. It doesn't matter.
Women are Completely Sexual
and
So Must Be Satisfied!
Women are highly sexual, perhaps completely sexual by nature. The origin of other trust issues in relationship are due to guys thinking women are innocent and asexual, as if sex were a chore or obligation to them.
Of course, if he believes this, it will be so -- but only for him.
Funny how when people 'demandingly' expect or want something of us, our first impulse is to deny them it -- even if we would have, and perhaps wanted to give freely, if they didn't.
Women want skilled lovers. Poor lovers are like bland diets.
Imagine that someone demanded your diet consisted of just bread and water, each and every day for every meal.
Meanwhile, as you walk down the streets, you smell the aroma of delicious cuisines wafting out from restaurants.
Tempting, huh? In fact, you have money in your pocket. What's to stop you? All you have to do is walk in. It's that easy. And after being deprived for so long, you have a major motive.
A woman having sex with a poor or inexperienced lover is just like being fed a diet of bread and water, meanwhile there are many men out there who could satisfy her -- just like that delectable cuisine!
So, a great way of dealing with trust issues in relationships is to learn how to please women in bed. This will give you the confidence, knowing that you ARE pleasing women in bedroom, which helps remove relationship trust issues.
