My Theory of Leadership
I had an interesting experience one day that taught me an important life lesson, like a theory of leadership.
I was walking down the sidewalk on the way to my bus stop for an appointment. As I got closer to my bus stop, I noticed about half a dozen women gathered in front of the bus stop sign, talking anxiously, looking around with confused expressions on their faces.
When I got there, I took a look at the sign. It said the bus route had been changed for the day and that it would be on the street parallel from where we were standing.
“Oh, they moved it around the corner,” I said thinking out loud, as I continued walking.
That's when something interesting happened...
“They all started following me.”
In fact, I had no real idea where the stop was, but I knew the direction I was heading in. I figured there'd be another sign letting me know when I got there.
When I did get to the street, there was no sign. So I chose one way, turned, and kept walking.
Out of the corner of my eye, I saw the women stop at the corner and look around. I was still walking. And eventually, they started following the route I was taking again.
I walked half way down the block, and still no sign. So I figured, “Hey! I know the bus is coming down this street. If there's a bunch of people gathered, it's going to stop.”
So I stopped, took out a book and started reading.
Some time passed and there must have been over a dozen people now standing around, all waiting where I had stopped earlier.
Eventually, the bus did come. And it stopped right in front of me.
So the lesson I learned from this experience, like a theory of leadership is: Know where you're going in life... or at least know what direction you're heading in... and the details will work themselves out.
Not only that, but some people have no idea where they're headed. So what do they do? They look around to see if it appears like there's someone amongst them who knows where they're going -- someone with good leadership qualities -- and then they follow that person.
Theory of Leadership in Life
In my theory of leadership lesson, I served these people just by knowing where I was going. I wasn't trying to help them. I was set on making my appointment. But because I had a direction and they had none, they followed me and ended up on the bus they wanted to get on.
Simply, be a silent leader. For real leader don't necessarily try to help people initially.
Those people who go out of their way trying to help others generally end up doing them more harm than good, as they become a ‘dependant'.
Then it seems to become more about leadership and self deception.
Rather, real leaders simply help themselves. People notice that, and choose to follow because they can see how they'll benefit also.
So it is in life...
Leadership power is not external. The signs are external, sure. But the working of this theory of leadership is really internal.
Know where you're going -- this is the key characteristic of leadership. Then go about your business. And you'll probably not only end up serving others in the process, you'll attract women as a natural side-effect.
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