Dealing with the Tell All
First Date Nightmare
Have you ever gone out with a "tell all first date"? You know, the kind of woman who tells you her complete life story in half an hour. If you haven't yet, here's what you need to know about this nightmare.
A "tell all first date" doesn't get it. She doesn't understand how to play the dating game. And any woman who doesn't understand the game isn't worth pursuing anything long-term with.
Why? She doesn't understand what effective communication is.
And if what you ultimately want is a HEALTHY long-term relationship, you'll need to find a woman who understands the game and is a great communicator.
Not only is a "tell all first date" boring, but what she communicates is that she's trying to get YOU to know her in one evening. Generally, she's selfish.
She's not capable of giving you a healthy relationship.
Of course if you're just out playing the field, have fun with her. But redirect the conversation away from her life story immediately.
If you want a crutch, say, "Woah, hold on. I think this relationship is moving too fast." Women use this on Nice Guys all the time. And when you give it to a woman, it's gold!
Trust me. It's a riot to use the lines women often use on men ON them!
Why? Because unlike most men, most women understand the subtle meaning behind them -- after all, they created them. And since they're so used to being on the other end, it's entertaining to see them experience things from the "other side".
Now, many times, these types of women start telling their life stories because a guy just sits there and listens without directing the conversation.
The solution to this nightmare is to recognize what kind of woman you're dealing with. Then decide to take charge of the situation or move on -- if you're looking for a relationship.
Naturally, this goes both ways. A guy can be a "tell all first date" too.
And it has the same effect on women. But when a woman isn't interested in a guy romantically, she may still keep him around as a friend. This is a common situation Nice Guy's experience.
And it's because they reveal too much TOO soon.
One way to be slotted in a woman's Friend's Class is to be a "tell all first date". So if you want a romantic relationship, don't do it.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
