Success with Women Lame?

Sometimes I think the entire niche or field called Success with Women and Dating is, quite frankly, ridiculous.

Am I not contradicting myself?

After all, isn't my site dedicated to just that... success with beautiful women or achieving what some would consider outrageous success with women?

Didn't I write the eBook Cool Guy with Women to teach you exactly how to succeed with women?

Yes... and no.

See, the truth is that all those who teach you to succeed with women and dating are all teaching you something else. They're really teaching not only how to be a worthy man, but -- the good ones -- are also teaching you how to be a human being with integrity.

So when choosing how to approach long term success with women especially, realizing this one fact is critically important -- for it saves you the mistake of getting TOO absorbed in the subject, which actually prevents you from getting what you want...

Success with Picking Up Women

The 'axiom' of success with beautiful women is that they are interested in, attacted to, and want men who have embraced their masculinity.

So what you'll find underneath all effective dating advice or systems are the principles underlining the essence of masculinity.

There tend to be two 'schools' or approaches:

1) Those who teach you techniques to mimmick masculinity, to put on an external appearance that there is a masculine core underneath your actions and behavior.

2) Those who teach you how to cultivate the internal reality of masculinity, for then your actions and behaviors reflect it naturally and you don't have to think about it, second-guess, or calculate.

'Speed seducers' or 'Get Laid Quick' approaches fall into the first group. But if you go with them, because the workings underneath them aren't authentic, there can only be perceived short-term success with women.

They seem to focus only on success with picking up women.

But with the second category, because you've changed the inner workings of your mind and thoughts, you don't have to 'fake it'...

... you simply have to be yourself -- your masculine self, that is.

How about Long Term Success
with Women and Relationships?

And when it comes to long term success with women, what women want is a man who has not only embraced his masculinity, but is also respectful...

... meaning he has integrity and practices respect.

For ultimately, our lives are made up of the quality of the relationships we establish. But if we take a quick-fix approach to success with women, will we not jeopardize that quality for quantity?

After all, all quick-fix solutions -- like 'Get Rich Quick' -- all sacrifice the relationship for the benefits received through the relationship.

It seems like they see the relationship as a liability rather than THE asset...

... what it is in the mind of the truly successful man.

Instead, their focus is getting what they want from relationships rather than focusing on serving the other party... and then letting the personal benefits be a side-effect or 'reward'.

And that's the reason...

Why Success with Women Can Be Silly

Over the past few months, I've been finding writing articles specifically on women and dating somewhat of a chore. Maybe that's why I post in my blog more often than creating new dating content or why I tend to spin them more toward improving communication and yourself.

After all, women are attracted to men who are NOT approval-seekers. Or, in other words, the LEADERS who think and act for themselves.

So why not go directly for that?

For in an odd way, can't trying to succeed with women be a form of approval-seeking -- exactly the opposite of where success lies? By using techniques, we're aiming to get a specific or favorable response from women.

Then success becomes dependant on them. Not us! So the focus should be yourself.

Yet certainly, you can build your own life but, without the understanding of the dating world, you can still fail with women. And even if you don't work on your life, you can still succeed with picking up women.

So I do think this is a necessary phase of the learning curve. However, I suggest seeing it as a phase.

For when you realize this and pass through that phase, you'll probably look back only to realize that you really started getting the success with women that you wanted only after you 'let go'...

... when you got educated on the dating game and then moved on to improve yourself and other areas of your life.

That's when you'll truly get what you want in the dating world -- when it's only an ASPECT of your life (which ties into life as a whole), and not as the focus.

Aptitude comes only after you stop wanting to 'get it right'.

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See you there soon.

Your Friend,

Jay Julio