Stop Kissing the World’s Ass!
In life, we have but one choice to make concerning our happiness and joy. We can look for and find it in ourselves -- or we can look for it in objects and others only to become depressed and miserable.
Why?
Because when we search for our happiness in others, our happiness is no longer dependant on us but someone else who we can't control -- though try, we might.
And even though people are people, when we look for our happiness in them, they BECOME objects in our minds. They become just another possession to us because there's no interpersonal relationship underneath it.
This is evident with the Nice Guys who see women as beautiful statues. If they get a date with one, they're so happy just to be with her that they don't even think to establish a healthy relationship.
Thus is the evil of materialism.
When we live in a materialistic reality, getting the girl isn't about the girl. It becomes about getting approval from other guys. When we make lots of money, it's not about how the money can improve our lives. It becomes about impressing others.
Materialism is nothing but a form of approval-seeking.
And it's the most dangerous form of approval-seeking for its aim is to get approval from the world. And those who seek other's approval, especially from strangers not only closes themselves off to their own happiness, they discourage any meaningful relationships.
They see a complete stranger's opinion of themselves as more important than their own.
Only in a reality built on materialism!
When we place our desires solely on impressing the world, whether by using the clothes we wear, the car we drive, the job we work or business we own, the titles we earn, the woman at our side, the way we look, or any other possession, we become ass-kissers to the world.
And when we kiss the world's ass, we become competitors. We start viewing everyone we meet as objects. This means we measure them based on a set of materialistic standards.
For when they don't have nice things, we're better than them. When they don't have the girl, we're sexier than them. And what's worse? We criticize them for it!
Then there's the reverse; when we notice others have nicer possessions or a hotter woman than us, they become a threat to us. And how do we respond? We start competing with them.
How do they perceive our behavior? "Why is this guy kissing my ass?"
The greatest shift a person can make in life is to destroy their materialistic reality. That's when life truly begins to transform. That's when their depression and misery begin to vanish.
Why? This is when you truly start becoming free to be yourself!
And that's the moment when you start building relationships because you're now open to them. No longer do you feel the need to sum everyone else up to know 'where you fit in'. No longer do you need to cut the next guy down to make yourself feel better about yourself.
Only then will you start noticing the other materialists in the world. And only then will you notice how miserable these people really are with their lives -- and you find yourself wanting as little to do with them as possible. You'll realize just how selfish they are, which is observable in their communication and relationships.
It's founded on judgment, and being better than the next guy.
This is also the same moment that women start noticing you for WHO you are. They start noticing you're a genuine human being because you view and treat other people not by their exterior, but by their character, how they think inside.
Because materialists only value possessions, they too become objects. It is the materialists in life that attract women who USE them for whatever assets he may have...
If he prides himself on his looks or body, he will attract women who show him off to her friends.
If he prides himself on his nice clothes, his cool car, and elite condo, he will attract women who use him for his toys.
If he prides himself on his 'social status' or fame, he will attract women who use him to throw themselves into the spotlight.
The list goes on.
But if you want to attract a woman for WHO you are, let go of materialism and embrace yourself for who you are. Call it spirituality, call it self-actualization, call it inner confidence -- but whatever you call it, make it a priority in life if you value your happiness.
For only when you're truly happy within yourself, regardless of your possessions will you be happy in a relationship or with an abundance of wealth.
Women will mean nothing to you... unless you're ALREADY happy with your life! If you're not happy, you'll end up using them like an addiction -- a distraction to take your mind off your misery not unlike alcoholism.
Find your happiness! Live for yourself!
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