Low Self Esteem and
Rejection Connected?
Is there a connection between self esteem and rejection? And by self esteem, I mean an internal sense of worth or value that comes only from within yourself -- and nowhere else.
Let me ask you this...
How much would it bother you if you asked a woman out and she rejected you?
Do you think...
"What if she thinks I'm a loser."
"Won't others think less of me if she rejects me?"
... or wouldn't it bother you?
The secret is, how you respond to that circumstance has much more to do with your self esteem than the actual outcome of the event -- the rejection itself.
And it is your self esteem that has the dominant influence on the outcome, even in the case of rejection.
After all, what is the root of rejection?
Being afraid of rejection is a symptom of placing more value on winning a woman's approval rather than knowing your own value in yourself. So when you have a strong sense of inner value, there is no longer any piercing rejection.
You begin to realize that disapproval becomes an inevitable reality of life. That not every women is going to approve or be interested in you.
And that's okay.
Taking rejection and disappointment personally, that not being approved of by a specific woman reflects your value, only invalidates yourself.
That's how self esteem and rejection are connected.
But when your self esteem is dependent on only your own worth, all rejection becomes not about you, but about a woman's opinion, which you have no real control over.
So accept opinions for what they are -- just opinions. And remember, women's opinions only influence your value or identity IF you let them!
And interestingly enough, when a woman realizes that her opinion doesn't effect you, she may actually change her mind. It's rare for women to encounter guys who don't care what women think about them!
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
