Don’t Discuss the Rules
of Dating with Women!
When you first begin learning the unspoken rules of dating, if you're like most people who begin learning something new, you may find yourself wanting to talk about it with others.
It's fresh, new, and exciting.
So why not, right?
But especially with women, there are a few major problems with revealing the dating ideas you're learning, along with your improved understanding of the dating game and the corresponding dating rules.
You may want confirmation from women that what you're learning is 'correct'. And though the motive is great, I think it brings more problems than it solves...
The Dark Side of Woman
First, remember that women, like us men, have their own fears. And fears have a way of bringing out the dark side of people.
For the truth is, most people don't want you to excel or have more choices than they do.
It's the crab-bucket effect. One crab wants better things out of the bucket, but as soon as he tries to climb out, the others pull him back down to their miserable level.
Let me share a story...
I recall when I started lifting weights and began putting on 30lbs of muscle mass using Anthony Ellis' program. At first, I'd talk about it and I'd try to encourage others to begin too.
I was out of line... trying to make other people's decisions for them. Yet the only response I'd get was "Yeah, okay."
But as soon as I realized I was out of line and shut-up about it, the changes in my body began to speak for themselves -- and that's when I got it!
It's funny how people don't take shots at you when you're out of line -- the time when they have the 'right'. No, they take shots at you when you live your own life and don't impress your choices or standards on others.
I find that paradoxical.
Perhaps it's because when you're just talking, they can feel superior to you and look at you as stupid, even hypocritical. But when you actually start walking, they feel inferior to you because you suddenly have what they secretly wish they had.
It's the same with women. Most women don't want guys having their choice of women. The reason is simple. It means that the women will have less choices.
So if you discuss the rules of dating with them, they'll think you don't get it. In fact, if you're asking them for dating guidance, though you may think you do, you really don't get it yet.
Essentially, what this does is give them permission to feel superior to you.
The Tragedy of Samson
Not only that, but do you know the story of Samson -- which is a great analogy for men today?
Samson's hair is the symbol of a man's source of Masculine Power.
If you're not yet familiar with it, let me give you the short version...
Samson was a Hercules type figure. He had great strength unknown to 'ordinary' men. And like Hercules, he had one weak spot.
When Samson started seeing a woman, Delilah, his enemies conspired behind his back and made her an offer that, if she'd figure out the source of this great power, they'd pay her handsomely for it.
After a few tries, Samson finally did tell her what the source of his power was. And when his enemies discovered his secret, which was the length of his hair, they cut it off and destroyed him by burning his eyes out and imprisoning him.
This story applies so well to the dating game.
For directly revealing to women your exact knowledge of the rules of dating is JUST like Samson telling Delilah that the secret to his strength was his hair.
Though there are exceptions, if you talk about the dating rules with women, you may as well be Samson telling Delilah the secret to your strength!
If you discuss the dating game with women or talk about different dating ideas you're learning, you might as well tell them how to take advantage of you.
Be a Cool Guy, Not a ‘Nice’ Friend
Finally, some of you may not like this one, but if you discuss the dating game and the rules of dating with women or ask them for dating guidance, you're giving them your balls -- because they're going to generally view you in the same zone as her gay friends.
What makes this even more tricky is that many 'dating gurus' do this... and advise that you do it too!
In fact, I recently saw one of these 'gurus' on a YouTube video. He had a female guest speaker... and it was obvious that she owned him.
And yes, I've done it in the past too.
But as an illustration, imagine James Bond or Tyler Durden or any other Masculine Archetype sitting down with a woman and discussing dating ideas or talking about the rules of dating.
I know they're fictional film characters, but that's a pretty silly picture, isn't it? Else, think of real guys like Bruce Willis or Tupac.
Yet these guys have been with assumably hundreds of women. A connection? You bet!
So remember, the women in your life are their for you to APPLY the rules of dating with...
NOT to discuss them with.
The Smart Time to Talk about the Dating Game
Like your financial matters or problems, these things should be kept private with the exception of having qualified advisors -- who give you their opinions for the purpose of learning to make your OWN decisions better...
... NOT to make them FOR you or tell you how to live your own life.
All others will likely -- though unconsciously -- try to instill doubt in your mind.
So the ONLY time I strongly recommend that you discuss the rules of dating are with other guys. And not just any guys...
But discuss the dating rules with either guys who already know what they're doing and you want to learn from them... or guys who repeatedly ask you to tell them what you know about the dating game.
Everyone else will use it against you, in one way or another.
Hey, you can't argue with the dark side of human nature -- or, at least, if you do, you better count on losing.
So don't talk -- walk!
In fact, if any guy talks about being 'the man' with women out of the blue, consider telling him that you don't date many women, you suck with women, or you're a virgin -- or anything the complete opposite of what proud guys are 'supposed to' say.
Then when they see the affect you have on women, they'll take a double-take. It's like a fun little prank. Their expressions are priceless. Besides, there's no reason to brag and prove yourself to anyone else!
Words alone always fail when placed beside action.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
