Prepare to Lose Virginity by
Removing these Myths
Do you want to lose your virginity, but find yourself in an impasse? For how do you prepare to lose virginity without the direct experience?
After all, don't you need experience to know what you're doing? And how do you get experience if you don't know what you're doing?
Feel stuck?
Take heart, none of that really matters.
The only thing you need to prepare to lose virginity is to remove the myths about sex. For it is these myths that are the REAL obstacles, not any lack of experience.
Since nothing happens unless our minds are prepared, when you've removed the following myths or misconceptions, you will have prepared yourself to lose your virginity mentally.
That's over half the battle. So let's take a look...
Myth #1: You Should Be
Ashamed
to Be a Virgin
The first way to prepare to lose virginity is to remove any feelings of shame or inadequacy, especially in connection with thinking you're 'too old'.
There's a misconception that our sexual experience is in direct relation to how masculine we are. Things like 'you're not a man if you're not getting any sex'.
This idea tends to just turn your virginity into a problem, and it also adds even more pressure to what you're thinking. And if you are a virgin, you'll probably start seeing your virginity as something negative.
But it's the opposite that's true... being masculine sets the way for sexual experience -- not that getting sex or losing your virginity makes you a man or more masculine.
Being a virgin isn't the real problem. Lack of experience is not the problem either.
The problem is not embracing your masculinity.
What this means is that you have to stop believing that your own value or identity as a man is dependant on sex or getting a woman, for that's a sure way to remove your opportunities.
The best way to prepare to lose virginity is to simply start embracing your masculinity, for when you do, you begin giving yourself and attracting opportunities.
Opportunities that show-up in the process and along the way.
Myth #2: Love and Sex are the Same
The second way to prepare to lose virginity is to realize that love and sex are two very distinct and SEPERATE things.
Our culture seems to teach us men that love and sex are the same thing, or that we shouldn't have sex with a woman if we're not 'in love' with her.
It conditions us to believe that we're indecent if we sleep with a woman, without 'love'. There are so many social stigmas.
But this is a recipe for disaster! And it is this very idea that, along with getting in the way of losing your virginity in the first place, places you in a position for women to leverage you for time and money.
The only people who really operate with love and sex as inseparable are Nice Guys. And Nice Guys are also the least successful with women.
Is there a connection? You bet there is!
Women don't really operate from a place of love and sex being inseparable -- except when they're with a Nice Guy. Why? Because they cater to his reality in order to get the benefits from him.
And they do that by withholding sex. Because he sees love and sex as inseparable, he'll stick around even if he's not getting any sex...
... and women know this is the best position to easily leverage a guy.
So another way to prepare to lose virginity is to see love and sex in separate realms because if you don't, women will remove the opportunities for sex with you. Postphone mixing love with sex until you're ready to enter a long-term relationship with a woman.
Myth #3: Sex is Special or Sacred
The third way to prepare to lose virginity is to realize that sex isn't 'special'. It's not some prize to be won, nor is it something that's going to change your life or make you 'complete'.
It's just sex.
It's not some sacred act, as many religions tend to depict it.
The only reason you may see it as special is because it's unknown territory to you. And like any novelty, we tend to romanticize it and create an ideal completely removed from reality around it.
Take getting your license to drive a car when you were in high school for example...
Weren't you anticipating your sixteenth birthday just so you could finally drive a car -- something you'd been dreaming about and waiting for for years?
You thought about it day and night, counting down the days until the moment finally arrived, right?
And what about now, assuming you're in your 20s or older? Do you still see it as special? Something to get excited over? ... Or do you just see it as a part of and a necessity of everyday life? Something you give little thought to.
Exactly! And it's precisely the same with sex.
The last way to prepare to lose virginity is to take the novelty out of it. Stop looking at it as special or life-changing -- because it's not.
These Myths are Excuses for Staying a Virgin
If you want to lose your virginity, take a good look at yourself and notice if you're currently believing in any of these myths or misconceptions.
Why is this so important?
Because holding onto these beliefs is the REAL reason you are a virgin -- not the detailed excuses inside those myths.
The reason is believing in the myths, themselves.
So by removing them, you will have prepared yourself to lose your virginity. Remember, nothing changes outside yourself until you first change the way you're thinking on the inside.
Then the rest is focusing on yourself and your communication and on taking action by learning to communicate like the lover women want to sleep with.
