Power in Conversations:
How To Get It Quickly!
Have you ever felt like you had no power in conversations with women? She seemed to do all the talking while you listened -- yet she didn't even seem to care.
It was as if all she wanted was to get something off her chest.
Does this sound familiar?
If you've ever been in this situation, I'm willing to bet you felt powerless. To take your power back, all you need to do is understand what's really happening.
The key to having and maintaining your power in conversations is in HOW you listen. It's not the words that are important. It's in understanding the emotions and motivations underneath them.
How many times have you heard a woman say...
“I want a guy who listens to me”
You've heard it before, right? And since us guys can be so logical, we tend to take it literally. This leads to losing power in conversations.
So what do we do? We LISTEN and AGREE with what she says.
And what's the end result? We end up listening to her complain and become her 'contract therapist'.
Then what happens? She gets upset and yells, "You're not listening to me!"
But you're convinced you were. You heard exactly what she said. Yet she claims that you weren't listening!
So what's going on here? Who's right? And who's wrong?
Well, there's no such thing. There are just two different perspectives. Each just thinks about listening differently.
Since men are logical and communicate mainly to exchange information, what they're accustomed to listening for is the facts -- the data!
But it's much different with women. And figuring out what women mean by listening is the clue to solving this riddle...
When women think about listening, they're talking about their emotional state. Their FEELINGS!
By listening to the words, you're thinking -- and listening -- LOGICALLY. Instead, you need to stop paying attention to the words she's saying, and "listen" to the feelings and motivations underneath them.
When you can learn to do that, you have incredible power in conversations. And here's why...
Always Turn Negatives Into Positives
Having power in conversations really means that you have control over what you feel and how to influence a woman's feelings. To do that, you simply need to learn how to direct negative feelings toward positive feelings...
... or know how to build more on current positive feelings.
When a woman comes to a Nice Guy with a problem, he listens to what she says. He listens to all the details of her problem and asks her to explain them.
That's why the Nice Guy has no power in conversations. He leaves things on negative subjects by listening, which promote negative feelings -- in himself and in the woman.
But a Cool Guy listens to her emotions. He doesn't really pay much attention to the specific problem a woman has. All he hears is the feelings -- the frustration or anger.
And instead, he cuts those negative feelings off as soon as he can and starts replacing them with positive feelings, using humor and a variety of other methods that are discussed in detail in my program.
Having and maintaining power in conversations is not about asking and answering questions. Essentially, it's about directing feelings!
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
