The Origin of the
Spine Donor Syndrome
Nice Guys are infected with the 'Spine Donor Syndrome'.
Common symptoms include passiveness, agreeableness, clinginess, and overly emotional responses.
The opposite of a Cool Guy, who is assertive, thinks for himself, is self-reliant, and is in control of his emotions.
Now, some say the origin of the Spine Donor Syndrome is the result of Feminism after having been injected with steroids, which may be so. But I'm talking about how us guys are infected with it in our own lives.
That's what's important to us!
The direct source is our mothers outstaying their welcome.
And the indirect source is our fathers refusing to be men, and not accepting our invitations for guidance when we hit puberty.
What does this mean?
It's in a mother's Nature to be concerned about her children. It's necessary for our survival when we're young and vulnerable. If men were to nurture infants and children, they wouldn't live long.
The true problem, however, lies in when a woman's nurturing concern transforms into ugly worry -- especially when it's carried over into our puberty years.
Part of a man's purpose in a sexual union is to keep his woman's worry in check, to calm her nerves. But when he doesn't do this, that concern takes on it's disastrous form...
... worry.
And it is that worry which is the germ wherein begins the infection of the Spine Donor Syndrome.
Nice Guys are dominated by their mother's worry, through childhood and adolescence. And being influenced by worry, if we don't know how to defend ourselves against it -- which, for most, when we're young, we're clueless -- scrambles our thinking and alters our habitual reactions.
Take the case of a stutterer. His voice has been crippled by, in most cases, his mother's worry. Stuttering is a severe symptom of 'smother-love'. When someone develops a stutter, it's due to their mother worrying about them and talking over them, telling them what to do and what not to do.
Take a listen...
A boy begins to speak. He's cut off by his mother in mid sentence, while being told what he shouldn't do -- fueled by her worry. Through repetition, the worry infects his 'speech mechanism' so that every time he goes to speak, even outside that circumstance, in his habitual thinking, he's expecting to be talked over with worry.
What happens? His voice chokes up and frays. This happens outside his conscious awareness, and he finds he has no control over it.
Unbeknownst, even to those many consider professionals -- the speech pathologists -- whom attempt to rid a stutterer of his stutter by teaching him new habits over the old stutter habit... the real problem is not creating a new one over top, it's getting rid of a poor habit causing the problem in the first place!
This is obvious to Alexander Technique teachers, who see stutterers lose their stutter altogether.
Now, the stutterer is a severe case. But this same pattern takes place where all mothers concerns have morphed into worry.
Haven't you noticed just how few men there are out their who speak clearly, with conviction? They are rare!
But why is that? It's part of the Spine Donor Syndrome, all beginning with an infection of feminine worry when guys should be breaking free from all influences feminine. When we respond to worry negatively or with silent anger, we lose vitality and aliveness in our spines.
We immobilize that vitality, weakening our voices.
And it is through our voices that we communicate our spirits. But when our spines don't belong to us, when we've donated them to our mothers during childhood, this becomes impossible.
Don't ask for it back -- TAKE it back!
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