Why Nice Guys Don’t
Get Quality Women
"Oh! He's such a Nice Guy!" women say. Ever noticed that these same Nice Guys don't get the women?
Don't you hate that!
What's going on here? Why is it Nice Guys don't get anything... but friendships? They're so 'good' to women.
Here's the simple explanation...
They put LONG-TERM communication into their relationships with women. And since most young women aren't looking for something long-term, Nice Guys cut themselves short.
What this does is eliminate them as SHORT-TERM prospects in women's minds.
It eliminates attraction! Why? There's no excitement or pleasure in it.
So naturally, if you want to date women who are 'in demand' today, you have to change your communication.
This is not optional.
Nice Guys don't get this. They continue doing what they've always done, expecting to get a different result.
Not going to happen.
See, what a guy communicates to women tells her whether he'll be one night stand material, short-term fling material, or long-term material.
And the way he communicates with women establishes the kind of relationship that will be established... how she will see him.
But WHAT is the driving force behind how a guy communicates?
Our communication is driven by our BELIEFS about what we WANT.
And Nice Guys don't get that Smooth Guys, Bad Boys and Cool Guys have very different beliefs about dating and getting women that get them results.
Nice Guys put LONG-TERM communication into their relationships with women from the start. They communicate that they'd be good at providing security...
... but NOT stimulation or adventure.
And long-term communication tends to close the door on anything short-term. This means the relationship moves slowly.
But why is this? Let's find out...
Young Women Don’t Want Security
Whether they know it or not, Nice Guys are communicating that they'd make great providers -- good husbands. But most young women don't want to get married.
You do the math. But Nice Guys don't get this.
Young women aren't looking for THAT kind of security -- yet anyway. And that's why they don't go for the Nice Guy...
... and that's why Nice Guys don't get women until they're old!
What are young women looking for? ... they're looking to have FUN!
They're looking for stimulation and adventure. And that's why they go for the Players for one night stands and the Bad Boys for short-term flings.
The only women who want security are the ones that want to get married to start a family or to stop having to work for a living.
But most young women don't... yet.
Today, most women tend to spend their 20s having fun. They're young, they're beautiful, and they can attract stimulating, adventurous guys.
Then they tend to spend their 30s pursuing their careers or trying to capture a good husband -- a good loyal provider... the Nice Guy.
That's why Nice Guys don't get young, hot women. Only when women are older and ready to settle down, do they go for the poor Nice Guy.
Literally, women SETTLE for Nice Guys.
The Nice Guy’s Only Asset is
Last On Women’s List of Priorities
Loyalty is the last thing a young woman looks for in a guy. Before she even asks herself if a guy's loyal, there has to be stimulation and adventure.
First, she looks for these things. Then she looks for loyalty -- last. And because loyalty is LAST on her 'checklist', she often doesn't notice it's not there until much later.
It's different with the winning Cool Guy, who's the ideal guy.
But because Nice Guys have no imagination and no passion, their loyalty is INVISIBLE to women. Yup! That's the main reason why Nice Guys don't get women.
Women don't really see it. They know it's there, but it doesn't register on their Richter Scale as something of interest.
Nice Guys don't get it. They are like reliable beaters that get you where you want to go. Their purpose is purely PRACTICAL.
Whereas Players are like sports cars that are fast, but burnout quickly. And Bad Boys are like motorcycles that have the excitement of freedom, but can be dangerous.
Do you want the sports car, the motorcycle... or that old reliable beater?
If you're an old man who's lived his life and had his fun, you'll likely go for the reliable beater. And that's just it...
Only older, 'tired' women go for Nice Guys. Why? Because they've had their fun, they've had their wild and crazy experiences, and they are now ready for security and marriage...
... and that's when they go for the boring Nice Guy.
Why do mom's like Nice Guys, while their daughters don't? For the same reason mom's teach their sons to be Nice Guys...
Moms want security for their daughters, and they also want to teach their sons how to provide that security. But their daughter's want fun for themselves -- not security!
That's a big factor why Nice Guys don't get women and dating.
And because security is all Nice Guys really have to offer women, they miss out. They spend their youth only working and having no real fun. And finally, when a woman settles for them, they're ready to have fun...
... but the woman has "been there, done that" and is 'tired'!
Remember, the only time women really go for Nice Guys is when they want security and are ready to get married.
So if you want a FUN dating life and don't want to be settled for -- victimized -- later, change now!
How?
Become Stimulating and Adventurous!
This does not mean that you should get rid of your sense of loyalty and security. A long-term relationship needs that to survive over time.
Cool Guys keep this trait, but they're very deliberate in WHO they give it to -- and WHEN. They make sure a woman has the kind of character they're looking for first.
In the meantime, they focus on other traits.
But remember that the reason Nice Guys don't win with women is that they make loyalty their priority! They try to prove just how loyal they'd be to a woman.
How does a woman respond? She files him away in the back of her mind as a backup, a last resort if all other prospects fall-through.
What's the solution to all this?
Instead of approaching women with security and thinking long-term from the beginning, start thinking short-term.
Absorb yourself in the moment.
Let things happen one level at a time and approach each with the most effective mindsets...
Be STIMULATING when you meet women. Be ADVENTUROUS when you date women.
And be LOYAL only when a woman WANTS a long-term relationship from you! The key is to be interested and involved in your life... for when you are, you change who you are and how you communicate!
When you meet a woman, use SHORT-TERM communication. And after you've dated her for a while, let it slowly change to LONG-TERM communication.
To become stimulating, get interested in fascinating subjects. Get involved in interpersonal settings... join a discussion group, take a class that interests you, read books you normally don't -- continue learning!
To become adventurous, get involved in doing things. Get involved in physical activities... join a gym, play a sport, study martial arts. Take risks. And stop taking yourself so seriously.
Do that, and your loyalty will become truly valued by women!
Why?
Because when you're a stimulating, adventurous guy who CAN be loyal, women want and have to work for that commitment.
Nice Guys don't do that, and that's the reason why Nice Guys don't get what they want from dating. They give their loyality away much TOO quickly, before a woman's demonstrated to him that she deserves it.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
