Masculinity in Movies
Take a good look at the portrait of masculinity in movies today.
Why?
After you learn to identify the true characteristics, qualities, and traits of REAL men, you start noticing a very peculiar trend repeating itself over and over again in the more recent films, concerning how the picture of masculinity in movies is painted.
It's actually quite shocking! It makes you wonder why. Where did it all begin, anyway?
Our culture is driven by the media. In previous eras, children with wealthy parents weren't raised by their parents during childhood. They were raised by nurses so the parents could own more of their time.
Entertainment is the nurse of our day.
Television allows parents to be less obligated to raising their children. It frees up their time, so they give television the responsibility of child-raising.
Most of us were raised by television. And in many regards, we've learnt our values and beliefs, at least in part, from what we've seen on TV. Instead of gaining firsthand experience to see what gets whatever result we want in the real world, we notice what gets the results by watching characters in movies and TV.
Then we emulate the same behaviors because it's all we know. And because we've seen it over and over again, we rarely question the soundness of it all.
When it comes to how to get women and the realities of masculinity in movies, it's no wonder the Spine Donor Syndrome is so prevalent. After all, who doesn't come into contact with television and film during their formative years?
And how do they portray masculinity in movies?
There are but a few exceptions, but the majority of movies tend to frame the masculine characters as the villain or the enemy! They attach a negative connotation to him. Not only that, they are also painted in such a way that the women characters in the movie don't approve of them.
What effect does this have on young males who haven't learnt to think for themselves or question what they see by comparing it with what's actually happening in reality?
They associate a strong masculine identity as something bad!
... as something to be avoided, shunned, and mocked at all costs.
Since they learn to identify strong masculine characters as villains in movies, and they don't want to be villainous (for it means not getting the girl), they reject it and femininize themselves by modeling themselves after wimpy characters, like the recent Spiderman movies.
Of course, this just brings their fears into their reality, for by buying into the femininized male ideal, they never get the girl.
Women are attracted to masculinity -- the same masculinity in movies that is portrayed as 'evil'.
This negative association with masculinity is especially apparent in chick-flicks, which isn't so strange. 'Romantic comedies' are generally date movies for Nice Guys.
I remember taking women to these types of movies when I was a Nice Guy. There I was taking a chick to this movie because I wanted her romantically. And there I was, also watching ways on how NOT to get her!
How's that for frustration? Yet this is what most guys do!
If you want to start attracting success with women -- and Life -- you have to transcend these 'romantic misconceptions' in movies. And if there's anything worth shunning, it's the sappy characters that get the girl in movies.
Model them... and you WON'T get the girl in real life!
Now, I rarely watch contemporary films anymore, but I do love older, 'classic' movies. And if you've ever seen any number of classics, you've probably also noticed that the types of guys that are painted as villains today were painted as the HEROES then, while the type of male character idealized today were generally exposed for who they really are -- wimpy, emotionally unstable girly-guys.
For example, ever seen Sabrina starring Humphrey Bogart? Or how about Gone With The Wind starring Clark Gable? The picture of masculinity in movies was much different then, for these same heroes, today, would be painted as villains.
There was a much more accurate depiction of true masculinity. Or rather, it was acceptable. Now, it's often framed as something unacceptable.
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