Mix Love and Sexual Desire
In the Right Order
Mixing love and sexual desire is probably one of the strongest agents known to man. It has the potential to raise you to great heights or lower you to the depths of despondency.
That's why it's SO critical to be deliberate and intelligent when choosing to mix these two emotions together...
... for your very life depends on it!
Why?
We can either get hung-up on a specific girl, and because of it let her string us along only to eventually get drained financially or emotionally through a long, drawn-out 'courtship' or marriage... or we can can prepare ourselves so that women actually empower us in these same areas of our lives.
How?
By understanding how to mix love and sexual desire in the 'right' order.
For the 'wrong' order sets you up to be manipulated by women, while the 'right' order allows women to enhance your life, giving you the power.
The key is to understand the...
Two Approaches to Women and Dating
When it comes to women, us men generally have two motives for wanting to get together with a woman: love and sexual desire.
Yet which motive is your priority?
That's an important question -- for it determines what kind of approach you'll take with women and dating, and what kind of circumstances, whether consequences or benefits, you bring into your life.
If your priority is love from the start, you're going to communicate to women that you're a provider type; the Nice Guy Approach. And it is this approach that sets men up to be easily manipulated by women.
This is the reason most guys don't get the woman they want or the kind of relationship they really want.
But if your priority is sex from the start, you're going to communicate to women that you're a lover type; the Cool Guy Approach. And it is this approach that allows you to have the power to define exactly what kind of relationship you want later with a woman.
Then it is you who has the choice of woman or women you want, and the power to setup the dynamic to the relationship.
This is the reason guys win with women and dating.
In my Cool Guy with Women program, I devote a whole chapter to explaining exactly what the differences are, along with the pros and cons.
The secret lies in your choice between love and sexual desire. But let's take a quick look at each approach...
Why the Nice Guy Approach Fails...
Nice Guys tend to look at love and sexual desire in the same realm, which, it would appear, is the core reason for their failure with women.
This includes failure at getting a woman they want or getting what they want in a relationship with a woman they do end up with.
And here's why...
Because they tend to believe that there must be love BEFORE sex, that somehow sex is the reward they receive for proving their love to a woman, they're indirectly asking a woman for permission and approval instead of taking the lead.
And what kind of an approach does this perspective have in their behavior and actions?
They begin supplicating to women because of their desperation. This is the cause, but the symptoms you'll see are based around trying to bribe a woman through things like giving her gifts, favors, and pretending to care about her personal problems.
Women see this and think, "Ah! He doesn't get how women work, but he can still give me impersonal benefits that will make my life easier."
Why the Cool Guy Approach Wins...
Cool Guys, on the other hand, tend to look at love and sexual desire as seperate at the beginning of a relationship. This allows them to have a clearly 'romantic' focus, which is the fundamental reason they win, because they prevent all manipulation.
And since sex -- or the promise of sex -- is a woman's greatest asset in manipulating men, Cool Guys take it off the table immediately by communicating that getting it or not getting it won't alter them.
This gives them the power to win by giving them control over the direction of the relationship because a woman then gives it to them freely.
Though, she just uses it differently...
Instead of withholding it to keep a guy around to get the benefits (like with the Nice Guy Approach) she gives it, hoping it will prevent a guy from leaving.
Players use this understanding to just get sex and then they move on.
But Cool Guys use it to get the kind of women and relationships they want, for only after removing a woman's opportunity to manipulate them does it allow them to set a healthy foundation for giving their love.
Love is something you give in return for a woman being worthy instead of giving it with the hopes of getting sex, like the Nice Guy.
So when it comes to love and sexual desire, always focus on sexing a woman first. And only after you've slept with -- after you've communicated there will be no manipulation -- and after you've deliberately identified whether she's the kind of woman with the kind of character you want, do you even consider the possibility of love.
This is the approach my program is formed around. Do yourself a favor and download my program and learn how to communicate like a lover.
