Learn to Make Mistakes in Life

Yes, learn to make mistakes. Or rather, unlearn how not to make mistakes. Sound like a mystery?

We're taught in school that mistakes are bad. We're graded on what we've learnt by our test results, by how good we are at remembering, most times, useless bits of information.

Students with poor grades are often considered and treated as being dumb. And if they believe it, they begin acting as if they actually were dumb.

Never make a belief out of a lie!

And since, as youngsters, few students want to be considered dumb, what happens? We begin fearing mistakes. After all, we're trained that not making mistakes means we're smart.

It gets drilled into our brains over and over again.

But this is a lie that destroys potential, or, at least, like a tranquilizer, lulls it into hibernation. It can be difficult to reawaken that potential.

We learn to walk by failing. Each failure teaches us how to eventually succeed. This is Nature's way. Without those failures, we'd all be lame. And the only reason? Because we believed it.

The only way is to eliminate the idea that making mistakes is bad or that, if you make them, you're dumb. In fact, the most intelligent -- or successful people have made the most mistakes of all.

That's the reason they are where they are today.

Intelligence isn't how much information you can cram into your brain, which is part of the lie we're taught in school. It's finding the information you need to get what you want in life. Then using that information, while making mistakes, so you can receive the lessons you need to understand how to apply the information effectively in your own life.

You'll also notice that people who remain afraid of mistakes for the remainder of their lives never find happiness. Their relationships are poor, and they never seem to have enough money.

Because they're so afraid of making mistakes, they actually use their intelligence against themselves. They use it to explain why they don't have what they want rather than using it to get what they want.

The problem is not wanting to be wrong.

Having the need to be right prevents people from noticing what they're actually doing. When we have to be right, we see nothing being wrong. Everything -- in our mind -- is perfect.

But being wrong is great. Knowing when you're wrong is greater. After all, you can't change something if you don't know it's preventing you from getting what you want.

If you ignore it, guess what changes? Nothing. Fearing mistakes and wanting to be right prevent true change.

Of course, the criticism that most people throw at those who make mistakes, generally, makes the problem worse. But what you have to realize in life is that those who criticize others for their mistakes are just excusing themselves from having the balls to try.

They're simply attempting to pull others back down to their level. Really, they feel threatened by others courage.

Learn to make mistakes. Do it for yourself, regardless of those timid souls who condemn you for them. Look at their lives. What do you see behind their cutting remarks?

Fear.

Remember, it's not a personal attack on you, so it's important to stop seeing it that way. It's their issue with themself, not with you.

Making mistakes allows you to master your own fears, something they aren't open to.

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