Eliminating Jelousy in Relationships
If you experience jelousy in relationships, not only will your relationship suffer, but if a woman's your girlfriend, she'll slide you over into Temp Zone -- meaning, she'll officially start looking for new options while keeping you around until she has something already going with someone else before breaking it off.
And if you've only dated a woman for a short period and you bring jealousy into your relationship by first feeling jealous or suspecting her of cheating, then making an accusation -- you're history...
... even if it's true! How's that for ironic?
And yes, I'm a poor speller. But have you ever wondered why women seem to have another guy so quickly after they break-up with their ex? Well, it didn't happen after the break-up. It happened before.
In fact, it happened the moment her ex expressed jealousy or displayed any other Spine Donor symptoms, like jealousy. That was her cue to disqualify him. Most times, women will keep a boyfriend around until she's secured someone else first.
It's just a matter of time, however long it takes for another guy to come into her life and for her to know she has him.
That's why women cheat on their boyfriends.
How to Kill the Jealousy
So the question is, how do you eliminate jelousy in relationships to prevent this from happening and actually stop yourself from feeling jealous in the first place?
The truth is it has nothing to do with any woman. It's a personal issue.
There is no Nice Guy on the planet who isn't susceptible to jealousy. It's this susceptibility to jealousy that is the problem, not whatever circumstance triggers it in a relationship.
Because Nice Guys see a woman they're interested in or dating as the prize, they place their sense of value in her rather than themselves. In their minds, there is only one woman they have their sights on.
They fear losing her or not getting her. It is this fear that causes jelousy in relationships.
The cause is selfishness and viewing women as objects or possessions.
Cool Guys on the other hand, view the Dating Game from the completely opposite perspective. In their reality they are the prize that women have to win. Their sense of value is in themselves. It's not some weak wish, it's a living belief.
And because of this, they have many women interested in them, which means all those women see THEM as the only one in THEIR sights!
Why? Because Cool Guys see women as free humans who choose them, not obligated statues who are expected to like them, like the Nice Guys attitude.
That's how Nature and the law of attraction work. Nice Guys act like women because they lock themselves into pursuing one woman from the beginning. And without options, the desperation moves in. Jealousy is sure to follow.
Change Your Outlook!
The key to eliminating jelousy in relationships is to shift your perspective. And really, this perspective can only be grasped, I believe, by dating several women at once, and absorbing as much information on women and dating as you can.
This shift in perspective can only be understood by placing the focus on your Dating Life rather than on winning a particular woman.
When you focus on your Dating Life, you are the center. You're creating a network of women that fit into YOUR life.
But when you focus on a particular woman, you'll likely find yourself tending to try to fit into HER life. And it is the very act -- or the IDEA of going directly for a specific woman that sets guys up for jealousy.
And jelousy in relationships is a big loser with women. You know you've conquered jealousy when a woman can walk out of your life, no matter how long or involved the relationship has been... and it doesn't phase you.
Almost ironically, having that very quality is what attracts women, not to mention paves the way for healthy relationships.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
