Push the Invisible Limits of Life!

When you really start pushing the societal norms or invisible limits of Life, you also start to attract attention -- and it's not always positive attention. In fact, many times, it comes in the negative form of criticism or resentment.

For there are times when you look like a fool -- while you're busy learning the lessons.

And then there are also times when you excel; you get what you want where others consider themselves to fall short.

Moving beyond the invisible limits often means that you're going to have to cross some unspoken boundaries with others in order to truly discover them.

That's where it can get 'risky'.

But until you cross them, you'll have little awareness of where they truly are (from personal experience). And taking risks to cross these boundaries will definitely upset some people...

It may threaten their sense of security -- or force them to change their perspective on you (or the world). Or it may create undesirable resentment in others.

So, yes. There can be consequences to pushing the invisible limits.

But the real question is:

What consequences are you willing to accept in order to evolve and realize your potential?

I think the bigger the consequences, the bigger the lessons.

Not that you necessarily always want the bigger consequences. But there are certain consequences, I believe, you have to resolve to experience if you're going to step out of limits into something worthy.

Can you accept...

A Loser Image?

Pushing the invisible limits means fumbling at first and making mistakes. And to some of those who have no real direction in Life, you will be considered a loser when you think and act with zero limits.

You will do things that don't work, which make you an easy target to those who sit on the sidelines of Life.

You will fail before you succeed, putting your pride on the line.

Can you accept that?

Most people equate making mistakes or having temporary failures as a 'loser habit' -- but it's quite the opposite! Those who avoid mistakes never evolve and so, settle into mediocrity.

Those who risk limits and fail are rewarded with lessons from personal experience -- lessons they later use to carry them onto success.

So without the failure and its reward -- the lesson -- the success wouldn't have been possible. But few people acknowledge that.

When they see success, they call it luck.

Most, because they've been conditioned throughout formal schooling to believe making mistakes and having the 'wrong' answer, is bad or stupid, avoid it.

In a way, it's viewed as socially unacceptable, so ostracism becomes a side-effect.

The Brunt of Envy?

Pushing the invisible limits is synonymous with making your own choices and thinking for yourself. And to do so, because you know exactly what you want, will make yourself vulnerable to others' jealousy.

There is no easier target of ridicule by mediocre minds than a successful person.

It seems that people who don't think for themselves will often despise those who do, for it takes a lot of courage to do so -- to go against the 'herd' and aim at what you really want... and get it.

Yet courage is the most admirable of all traits. That makes you a threat. And what's the common personal defense against such a threat?

Resentment fueled gossip or straight out verbal insults.

Can you accept people whining or condemning about you behind your back, picking out your flaws in order for them to shut-out and ignore where you excel -- or condemning you verbally?

When you realize or achieve what are but wishes to them, the meager will launch their verbal attacks. If you succeed with women where other men fail, you'll see their envy.

Though really, they don't see you -- the person. They see their deprivation. But you do start seeing true confidence limits...

You see who's with you, and who's not.

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