Imagine a World
without Nice Guys...

The problem with Nice Guys is not just that they don't get what they want for themselves personally or -- as men -- deserve from their dating lives and their lives in general, they pose a major threat to the health of society...

... for they help perpetuate a divide in sexuality.

And a divide in sexuality, I believe, will always throw a society off balance, welcoming shame, anger, and pride.

To see this reality, you have to look at how Nice Guys teach other people to treat them, and how they subtly alter the character of those who they allow to disrespect them...

... which is a form of manipulation.

But first, let's consider how manipulation and victimization work. Manipulation doesn't just effect the victim. It effects the victimizer to the exact same degree.

Those who victimize others, victimize themselves. And those who manipulate others, manipulate themselves.

Nice Guys are manipulators. The same applies to seducers or Pick-Up Artists. They too are Nice Guys, but with them, their methods of manipulation have evolved.

The only difference is that Pick-Up Artists know they are manipulators and they get laid. But Nice Guys? They don't even recognize that they are manipulators... and they don't get laid -- unless of course a woman is expecting a favor.

Because Nice Guys have no backbone, they allow women to walk over them and take what they want from them. Not only do they not assert themselves, they actually VOLUNTEER to donate their spines to women by giving them things and favors that the women haven't earned or don't deserve.

And there is a great danger to the person who accepts what they do not deserve.

Sure, in our age of instant gratification, we want and expect stuff fast and free, if possible. Only responsible people refuse to accept what is free if they feel or know they don't deserve it.

Why?

The danger in accepting what a person doesn't deserve is that it alters their character. They form habits of expectations based on something they haven't earned simply because someone else -- the Nice Guy -- trained them to live in such a reality through his need for feminine approval.

This causes pain and hardship.

For when these outrageous expectations aren't met in a woman's life, she slowly learns and develops her own victimization techniques to manipulate men into adhering to her expectations to compensate and maintain her reality.

This is the Princess Syndrome.

Real men do justice to women by refusing to put up with such victimization because they understand when one unit in a union is victimized, so is the other. It creates disharmony for both.

Look at the world. And look at the life of an attractive woman, especially. If her father was a Nice Guy, she learned to develop this Princess Syndrome early on in life.

He's taught her irresponsibility from day one.

Then when guys start taking note of her in adolescence by trying to impress her or get her approval, she becomes more and more infected by the Princess Syndrome.

This goes on long into marriage, assuming she does marry a Nice Guy. And with so few real men in the world, most women have to settle eventually.

And because a woman's deepest fear in life is to be judged by a man, since Nice Guys have a phony image of women, if she were to reveal who she really was, he would condemn her, she finds herself in a position to hide and cater to the Nice Guy image.

So stricken with the Princess Syndrome by then, she projects it onto her sons while the Nice Guy daddy doesn't even realize how this threatens and destroys their masculine identities.

Of course, the cycle repeats in the sons life, unless he finds his own masculinity on his own.

Now, imagine a world without Nice Guys...

Imagine if we stopped teaching women to expect what they haven't earned or don't deserve simply because they have breasts and bums.

Imagine if we saw women for who they really are and not some ideal or the Princess Syndrome they've wrapped themselves in.

Imagine if we taught our future sons to stand up for themselves.

And imagine if we taught our future daughters that they had to earn respect, not get approval based solely on their 'assets'.

We're men. We're leaders. If we let women get their way, the world will self-destruct -- at least the world each of us lives in.

The choice is yours.

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