How to Get Over
Rejection
from Women
Since the fear of rejection tends to be the first big hurdle to jump, you have to learn how to get over rejection. When you overcome rejection, you set the process in motion.
How do you overcome the fear of rejection? The only way really, is to take action in spite of it. But there are some helpful suggestions on how to get over rejection.
The truth is, rejection is as big or small as YOU make it. And since you have a choice, why not make it small?
That asks the question...
Why Does Rejection Become a Big Deal?
What determines the size you see rejection? And how can you change it?
It has to do with understanding what makes rejection big and what makes rejection small.
Simply it is the thoughts behind approaching a woman or asking if she's single, and asking "What's your phone number?" Which really means, "Are you available AND interested?"
How to get over rejection involves changing your thoughts or perspective about rejection.
Let me ask you this... what are your thoughts going into asking someone for directions to somewhere you want to go?
You see someone. You ask immediately. Don't you?
“Excuse me. Do you know how to get to Park Rd?'
“No.'
I bet you don't take that personally, do you? Why not? Because you're only interested in what you want... the INFORMATION. The personality isn't important -- at that point, anyway.
What you want is to find Park Rd. They couldn't give you what you wanted, so what do you do? You think, "I'll ask someone else."
You accept it immediately without any heart palpations.
That's how to get over rejection. Stop viewing rejection as some big dilemma that's going to be a big blow to your ego.
Take the Sting Out of Rejection!
What's the difference between asking a stranger for directions and asking a woman if she's single? There is NO difference... UNLESS you let yourself get worked up over it...
... unless you place a lot on the outcome.
Think about it...
You want to go out with available, interested women. When you ask a woman if she's single, all you're doing is CHECKING -- like asking for directions -- if she can fulfill what you want. And like a stranger who doesn't know the directions, a woman who isn't single or interested is of no purpose in your life.
And it's NOT personal. It's just reality. Whatever her reason for not being interested or receiving you well has NOTHING to do with you!
Maybe she's already in a great relationship.
Maybe she's had a 'bad day'.
There are a million and one reasons.
If you don't take rejection personally, there will be no friction between you and the woman. She'll ALSO see it in the same way as someone asking her for directions.
But if you take is personally, she will feel uncomfortable.
Rejection isn't personal -- except when you think it is.
STOP thinking that rejection is personal! That's how to get over rejection. And by applying this idea to your Dating Life, your fears begin to disappear.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
