How to Build Up Conversations with Women
There are certain methods for how to build up conversations. Becoming an effective conversationalist really is an art.
And women feel very comfortable around great conversationalists.
Learning how to build up conversations is one of the first active steps to creating a rich dating life.
Sometimes we have conversations with the women we date just for the sake of communicating rather than sitting in silence. Other times, we want something from the conversation -- we want to know something...
... we want information.
But don't we also want to get it without making exactly what we want known to the woman? Not even necessarily that, but simply to be tactful. 'Jolting' questions have a tendency to make women uncomfortable.
That's when knowing how to build up conversations is crucial.
For example, has someone ever asked you a question that seemed out of place? It seemed to come out of nowhere, and you had no idea why this person was asking you it?
How did you respond to the question? First, you were probably taken aback by its bluntness. Then, before answering -- if you did -- you paused to consider their motivation.
Not knowing how to build up conversations makes a person come off as very 'suspicious'. And naturally, when it comes to communicating with women, trust is number one.
The Basics of How to Build Up Conversations
1) Always start with light small-talk
You know yourself. You know what a trustworthy guy you are. But you know what? A woman doesn't, especially if you've just met her.
And even in the case of women you've known for years, always start conversations off light. Rapport has to be built at the beginning of EVERY interaction, no matter how close you are.
"Intelligent people" often think talking about the weather is pointless. But it's the most important. It's not the weather that's important, it's getting comfortable talking and listening to each other.
Remember, intelligent people also tend to be the stupidest socially.
2) Wait for cues to move off the small talk
Small talk is the first step of how to build up conversations. It gets women talking, comfortably.
It establishes trust.
The key is to listen to a woman talking about the weather, etc, because somewhere in there, she's going to mention something closer to her that's worth talking about.
3) Grab the cue as soon as possible
Why is small talk called small talk? Because it should be small and as SHORT as possible. As soon as a woman throws you a cue, take it -- unless it's negative.
Then wait for another one.
But when a woman mentions anything personal like something she did or is going to do, that's your cue to start talking about that subject.
It gives you a smooth and natural opportunity to shift things into a more involved conversation.
4) Focus on her experience concerning the subject
Life happens while doing things. And that's where the information lies.
So when you finally get onto a subject that she's connected with, stay there. Focus on her experience. Those experiences lead you into what kind of life she lives.The above set of steps is a simplified version of how to build up conversations. Start applying it today. And practice these steps at every chance you get and eventually it all becomes second-nature.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
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Jay Julio
