How Do Dominant-Submissive Relationships Work?
Just how do dominant-submissive relationships work? Maybe you've seen women in relationships with domineering men and wondered why, or perhaps you've even been in a relationship with a domineering woman.
It happens.
People think it's only men who are physically abusive. But I've met men who were abused physically by women too. It's not that uncommon. Men are generally more ashamed to admit to it.
At any rate, there are controlling women out there.
Whatever your situation or reason for understanding it, there's always a specific dynamic behind dominant-submissive relationships.
Now, practically all relationships will have a more dominant person and a more submissive person. But when people think of dominant-submissive relationships, they tend to think of people in domineering or controlling relationships.
So how do dominant-submissive relationships work?
The truth is, both people are EQUALLY responsible -- except the domineering person in the relationship tends to get the blame while the submissive person gets the pity.
And that's the key in the above statement. Ironically, both help support the relationship.
If you look deeper, you'll generally find BOTH people are manipulating each other to the EXACT same degree.
The submissive person is just as manipulative, but it's subtle and not openly obvious to the outsider.
Let's take a closer look...
How Do Dominant-Submissive Relationships Work? ... Look for These Two Emotions
The root behind dominant-submissive relationships are two opposing 'weaknesses'... two opposing negative habitual emotions.
What you'll likely find is that one person has problems with anger, while the other has problems with worry. Generally, it is men who have problems with anger and women have problems with worry, but it can go the other way too.
Then the worst case scenario... both people having problems with both.
Now, when these two emotions come together, if people haven't learned how to control them yet, they trigger and fuel each other.
So how do dominant-submissive relationships work? Both people are not in control of themselves and their emotions. And then they let the other party's weakness trigger their own weakness.
That's when things can get out of hand. It becomes a habitual interaction that repeats itself over and over again.
If a woman worries about her man, he gets angry. Nobody likes to be worried about. It really is a subtle form of control. And when a guy doesn't know how to control his anger and assert himself in a calm, respectful manner, he may resort to being physically abusive out of frustration.
And if a man gets angry at his women, she starts to worry. Again, nobody enjoys having someone upset at them. It's an obvious form of intimidation. And when a woman doesn't know how to control her worry, she may take the anger directed at her personally, then resort to all kinds of avoidance manipulation methods and complaining or gossiping.
You can see how each emotion perpetuates the other.
Take Charge of Yourself!
If what you want is to find a healthy relationship, you MUST learn to control your emotions first... even before you meet a woman who can qualify for a healthy relationship.
How do dominant-submissive relationships work? Now, you know the answer... a clash of worry and anger. Be honest with yourself and notice if you need to make any personal changes.
Do you have a problem with anger? How about with worry?
Jerks tend to have anger problems. They tend to trigger worry in women. Of course, they also attract women with worrying problems in the first place.
Nice Guys tend to have worry problems themselves. They tend to perpetuate a woman's worry by listening to it. Worriers tend to blame other people for their circumstances. And Nice Guys support women's reasons why the Jerk is as at fault, when the problem is just as much her responsibility.
If you can learn how to control your own anger and also learn how to deal with any worry a woman throws your way, not only are these qualities incredibly attractive, all your relationships become healthy independent of the other parties personal problems.
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Jay Julio
