Don’t Become Part
of her Hidden Agenda
Who's playing whose role? Are you part of her hidden agenda? Or does she fit into your plan?
Keep in mind that women think about themselves. They tend to think about how THEY will benefit from each circumstance they experience. They ask themselves how they can use every person and situation to get what they want... to fit their agenda.
Just like all of us. Placing a woman on a pedestal will blind you to this fact...
She's focusing on HER hidden agenda.
Understanding this Is IMPORTANT!
What this means is, even though you may be thinking about how a woman will fit into your life when you first meet and at the onset, she's thinking about how you'll fit into HER life at the SAME time.
And unless the role you want her to play in your life AND the role she wants you to play in her life are compatible, one of you has to submit to the other.
Finding compatibility is the ideal situation, of course. Then you both win!
But if you subject yourself to the role she wants you to play by falling victim to her hidden agenda, you'll end up as just friends -- or whipped. You'll become her servant who works around her personal agenda...
... unless you practice establishing personal boundaries with Women.
Always Set Boundaries
By communicating your boundaries, you're offering her the role she can play in your life by demonstrating you have expectations. You have terms you expect from a woman you date.
This is an effect of self-respect. You're giving her the options. She either chooses Yes or No.
Let me ask you something...
Do you go into a job interview and try to persuade the owner or boss to give you his job instead of the one he's looking to fill?
No way! He would kick you out of his office!
Don't let women try to do the SAME thing to you. Don't let yourself become part of her hidden agenda.
You know where that path ultimately leads, don't you?
A Workhorse Marriage!
This is where you use your time working for money to buy her what she wants -- while she does whatever she wants with her own time and YOUR money.
This happens to a lot of men because they never see the hidden agenda. Don't let yourself become one of them.
The solution?
Imagine your life is like your company, and you are its owner. To avoid becoming a part of a woman's hidden agenda, remember, YOU offer her the position in it.
She must BOTH: want it, and qualify on your terms.
But if a woman EVER comes in and tries to take over by encouraging you to conform to her hidden agenda, drop her and move on to dating other women immediately.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
