Foreplay Secrets to
Set the Lovemaking Mood
What are the most powerful foreplay secrets? Do you want to learn how to use foreplay to set the lovemaking mood for the kind of sex you really want?
Some guys look at foreplay as work. All they want is to get down to business. It's just something they feel they have to do to get sex.
They want instant gratification.
But when you begin looking at foreplay not as a chore, but as a way of setting the mood for what kind of sex YOU want, you realize its limitless benefits and potential -- not just for you, but for her.
This sexual awareness creates a sexual win-win situation.
For you musicians, foreplay is like tuning an instrument before a performance. Depending on what kind of sound you want, you may actually tune it differently to get a specific tone.
Foreplay is what's used to set the 'sexual tone' before lovemaking.
It's almost like "sexual small-talk" that leads into the kind of sexual experience that will follow.
What Kind of Pleasure Do
You Want... to Give Her?
Sex is all about pleasure, right? And pleasure can either be given or received. Again, obvious. But these foreplay secrets have to do with understanding the dynamics to giving and receiving is what lays the groundwork for putting these foreplay secrets into practice in your own sex life.
Ever heard the aphorism, "It is more blessed to give than to receive"?
Well, this principle applies just as much to the bedroom as it does to every other area in life. The more you give a woman, the more open she becomes to giving back.
And depending on WHAT you give her and HOW you give it to her determines exactly what she'll feel the urge to give back to you.
Understanding this allows you to realize that YOU are in control of your sex life -- YOU are in control of what kind of sex you have.
You choose. You lead the way and set the atmosphere or dynamic.
So what kind of pleasure do you want to give her? The following foreplay secrets will reveal the different kinds of pleasure, and how to set the lovemaking mood to bring out each one in a woman.
And you do this by how you communicate during foreplay. Essentially, in that time, you let her know what kind of sexual role you want her to play during intercourse later -- this is all nonverbal.
To me, that's the purpose of foreplay. And that's what these foreplay secrets are all about.
Your options are either you can please her, she can please you... or you can please yourself. And it's the kind of foreplay you use that leads the interaction toward one of these dynamics.
But there are exceptions. And these exceptions are founded on one condition...
... like in life, if you give with the expectation or the motivation that you're going to get "paid" in return, you'll end up doing all the giving -- and she'll do all the receiving, using you to please only her.
She'll just take and take, and give you nothing.
Keeping this in mind, always give WITHOUT expecting anything in return. Always give for no other reason than that you want to give.
That said, here are the three central foreplay secrets and how to apply each one...
Foreplay Secrets #1:
For Sensual Intimate Sex
So you're in one of those rare moods for intimacy and you want to "make love" to a woman you're seeing. You want to connect not just sexually, but emotionally as well.
This tends to be the Nice Guy's strong point because he focuses solely on pleasing a woman rather than himself. And making love starts with tuning into a woman's sensitive, sensual side -- focusing on her.
The secret to making love is to find pleasure in pleasing her.
And since making love is romance, I suggest saving it, like any romance, for special occasions only. Flowers every week is boring, but twice a year is great. Then it's special.
The same applies to making love.
So how do you use foreplay to set the lovemaking mood for making love? You picture women like they're delicate.
This encourages you to focus on things like smelling, fondling, massaging, while taking everything very slowly and using a lot of eye contact. Naturally, you'll choose positions where this is possible.
By doing this you communicate with the sensitive side of a woman. You bring that side of a woman to the surface.
When your motivation is to please a woman during foreplay, you give the sexual mood a tone set for intimate lovemaking. So if you want a slow, long, and sensual lovemaking session, use these foreplay secrets to choose this mood.
If you're in the mood intimate sex, focus on pleasing her.
Foreplay Secrets #2:
For Letting Her Have Her Way with You
You're in one of those moods where you don't want to do anything in bed... you just want her to please you using all the methods you love.
This tends to be the Smooth Guy's strong point because he focuses on arousing women and getting them turned on, which makes them pursue him.
And the secret to letting her please you is to intensify her desire, then let her do the rest.
But just how do you do this? How do you set the lovemaking mood for her wanting to please you? Again, it's in how you communicate during foreplay -- the role you subtly place her in.
Unlike setting the mood for making love, here you want to picture women as "dirty" or "slutty"... and all that 'politically incorrect' stuff which is at the true heart of a woman's sexual nature.
What you'll find is that women start acting the way you treat them.
Now, I don't recommend this for the less experienced, but if you have the confidence where you can project a strong intention -- meaning you will not back down -- you can actually verbally tell a woman who she is or who you want her to be during foreplay.
"You're ..." Or "You're my little ..." Insert whatever you want her to be.
If you can say this with conviction, she will comply and her actions will reflect it. Why? Everyone, both men and women WANT to be dirty. But, especially women need permission to do this.
They don't want to be judged for their dirty thoughts. But if you let them know it's okay and desirable, she'll let it all out.
You can also do this nonverbally by building a lot of anticipation during foreplay. This involves teasing -- giving her something she likes and just as she starts to really get into it, you pull back and stop.
By using these foreplay secrets, she starts getting frustrated and becomes aggressive. Then she starts making moves on you. And when she advances, you pull back again, or try to stop her.
This intensifies her desire... until she's clawing at you.
If you're in the mood to let her please you, turn her on and sit back.
Foreplay Secrets #3:
For Having Your Way with Her
And what if you're in one of those moods where all you want is to go to town. You want to let you primal animalistic instincts do what they do best. That's it. Nothing more, nothing less.
This tends to be the Bad Guy's strong point since he's aggressive and generally takes what he wants without taking objections seriously.
And the secret to aggressive sex is to please yourself using her.
It can be a big turn on to women to treat them like they're just a piece of meat. There is a necessary ingredient however -- you have to become the type of man that women WANT to let have their way with them.
These foreplay secrets go against everything we're taught, and some women may argue this point. But when you become this type of man, having your way with a woman is just as satisfying to her as it is to you.
Women love being dominated in bed.
So how do you do this? How do you picture women to set this lovemaking mood? You view them as sex objects.
This encourages you to spank them, be 'forceful', and do all that "caveman" type stuff. But you NEED a certain confidence level first. If you don't, you will get resistance -- in a very bad way.
But if you can follow-through with confidence and look at any resistance as petty, she'll submit to you. Naturally, this is a VERY touchy subject.
Yes, a strong "No" means "no". But weak-intentioned resistance doesn't mean "No". It's just means, "I need more convincing that you're confident enough."
So if you just want raw, carnal sex, focus on pleasing yourself.
These are the essential foreplay secrets you need to master if you want control or have direction over what kind of sex you bring into your sex life, when you want it.
