Grasping the Emotional
Behaviors of Men
There seems to be much confusion today over the emotional behaviors of men. Where does a man stand with his emotions? Generally, guys tend to fall into one of two categories on the topic.
They either believe, as men, that we should be be tough and express no emotion or... we should be super sensitive.
At one pole, you have guys who think being in touch with our emotions is a sign of weakness. And at the other pole? We find men who think we should express our emotions the way women do.
Which pole regarding the emotional behaviors of men is closest to our true nature and masculinity. After all, embracing your true masculinity, ultimately, is the best way to not only attract women but establish a healthy relationship dynamic from the beginning, allowing you to carry it throughout the relationship.
Women say they want a sensitive man -- a man who is in touch with his emotions. And I believe they are telling the truth.
The only reason this issue gets confusing is because many guys tend to mistake being sensitive and being in touch with our emotions as submissive or weak.
And here lies the reason. You can be sensitive and in touch with your emotions AND still be strong, dominant, and a powerful leader -- in fact, you have to be in touch with them to develop these traits.
Stop viewing sensitivity and embracing emotions as weak.
Guys tend to think of emotions in a Nice Guy frame of mind. Meaning that you should be openly verbal about your emotions towards a woman by talking about how you feel -- that they should be puked all over the place.
Women hate this! And yes, this is being submissive and weak.
But truly being in touch with your emotions as women INTEND it to mean has nothing to do with talking about them...
... but rather embracing them instead of ignoring or trying to hide them.
A Lesson From William Wallace...
You've seen Braveheart, right? I've always considered William Wallace, Mel Gibson's character, a great example of what a man is and should be.
I ask you, was he weak and submissive?
No, he was fierce and passionate.
But was he sensitive and gentle in love?
Yes, with the women in his life, he revealed his peaceful, sensitive and compassionate side.
Did he puke his emotions all over the place?
No, he rarely talked about them, and when he did, he was honest. He didn't use them to try to win a woman over.
But was he in touch with them?
Absolutely! And he expressed them through his actions instead of talking about them.
Emotional behaviors of men is to control -- not be controlled by them.
A Man is in Control of His Emotions
The real issue behind the genuine emotional behaviors of men has nothing to do with either expressing them or not -- it has only to do with controlling them.
Those guys who treat their emotions the same way women do, have no control over them. They let their emotions control them and their behavior by making their emotions easily and quickly available to women.
Women run for the hills.
And then there are the guys who express no emotion. They ignore them and keep them locked up inside themselves. And it is impossible to control something that you ignore. It's just the opposite pole of openly expressing them. But still there is no control, just ignorance. They make their emotions completely unavailable to women -- including themselves.
Women may be more attracted to men who express no emotions, but, in a relationship, if he's not in touch with his emotions, that relationship will become unhealthy.
Embracing the true emotional behaviors of men involves accepting our emotions, expressing them mainly through our actions, but not letting them take control of us.
Do that, and you will have women fighting for you.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
