Definition of Unhealthy
Relationships with Women
Understanding the definition of unhealthy relationships allows you to easily determine when you have a healthy relationship because you know what to prevent or avoid in a relationship...
... because you know the exact definition of unhealthy relationships.
Knowing the qualities of an unhealthy relationship lets you know where you need to make improvements or adjustments within yourself, and also how to identify when you've found a woman who can give you one.
These are two stages to finding a healthy relationship:
1) You have to be prepared for it, and
2) You have to find a woman who is able to give it to you.
Without following these two stages -- both of which are not only under your control, but are completely YOUR responsibility -- your chances of getting into an unhealthy relationship are HIGH.
So take charge! And make the necessary changes today.
But just what is the definition of unhealthy relationships? First, there is no mutual attraction (or it gets lost quickly). Second, there's no respect. Third, it's impersonal. And fourth, either you or your girlfriend isn't being satisfied sexually -- or both.
The key to finding a healthy relationship is to turn these four unhealthy relationship qualities upside down.
Here's how...
Quality #1: Create and Maintain Attraction
No one wants to have a romantic relationship with someone who they're not attracted to in some way. Attraction, also known as the Sex Emotion, is the motivating force for bringing a 'couple' together.
Obvious, right?
Us guys know what we find attractive, but few guys know how attraction works for women. Most times, they assume it's about looks, as it is for guys.
But it's not. Not entirely, anyway.
And without attraction, all you have is a friendship.
That's why the fundamental definition of unhealthy relationships is simply that there's NO attraction. It must have been there in the beginning -- aside from desperation, perhaps.
But, somewhere along the way, it must have gotten lost.
To get a healthy relationship, you have to understand not only how to generate attraction in women, but how to MAINTAIN it on an ongoing basis.
For as long as there is a strong attraction, the foundation remains firm.
Aside from unfaithfulness, most relationships end because the attraction was lost. Of course, that may have also been the reason for the cheating.
Quality #2: Demand and Communicate Respect
We don't feel comfortable around people we don't trust. And what's responsible for getting that untrustworthy feeling?
Getting the impression or vibe that someone resents us or is blaming us.
Or looking at it another way, what is it that lets us give our confidence to someone?
Knowing WHO they are, for it's difficult to trust someone or place our confidence in them when they're not being themselves.
This begs a question...
What does it mean to be yourself? And how do you do it?
You can only truly be yourself when you practice demanding respect, by communicating and establishing your boundaries.
Women will always cross a line with you in your relationships with them. It's going to happen. It's unavoidable. In fact, everyone you have a relationship with in life will. The problem is not them crossing your boundaries, for that's just a part of life.
The real problem is NOT letting them know it's unacceptable!
The definition of unhealthy relationships is that either party doesn't have the courage to let the other person know they're being treated in a way they consider unfit. Generally, the reason is they fear rejection or else, receiving an emotionally defensive explosion from the other person.
But respect paves the way for trust. And trust leads to open and honest communication, an essential in a healthy relationship.
Quality #3: The Benefits Must Be Personal
The truth is, we never want something for the thing itself. We always want something for the BENEFITS it gives us.
The same applies to the women we want, just as it applies to the women who want us. Really, we want to get together with someone because of what they have to offer us.
Very selfish, I know. But it's the truth.
However, there is a huge difference between true selfishness and wanting the best for ourselves and in our lives, while making a contribution at the same time.
And that's where we have to make the distinction.
In the definition of unhealthy relationships, either one or both parties are in it not for WHO the other person is, but for the benefits they receive through that person, regardless of who that person may be.
For us guys, when we place a woman on a pedestal, it's no longer about them. It's about us, and our pride. Getting a hot woman becomes about showing her off to bloat our egos. And it's often about who we make them out to be rather than who they ACTUALLY are.
The same applies to women. There are women use men for the benefits too: money, favors, sex, bragging rights, etc.
Of course, who doesn't want to walk around with a bombshell at their side? What I'm saying is the FOCUS should be personal, about how the influence of WHO she is enhances your life...
... and how you enhance hers.
The key is to have an awareness of what each are REALLY thinking, regardless of the response that appears on the surface.
Quality #4: Mutual Sexual Satisfaction
We get together with women for sex. That's our initial motivation. And since attraction and sex go hand in hand -- they're two halves of the same foundation -- so you must maintain a healthy sex life.
If the sex goes sour, gets boring, or routine and repetitive, you'll start heading towards an unhealthy relationship.
Another part of the definition of unhealthy relationships is when one or both partners lose interest in sex with each other.
No one loses interested in sex -- not in youth anyway. And if we don't want sex from our girlfriend, we're going to want it from someone else.
Naturally, the same applies to women. If they no longer want it from us, they're going to look for it somewhere else.
And then the foundation is destroyed.
Master Yourself and Find
A Woman
Who’s Already Done the Same
Now that you understand the definition of unhealthy relationships and also their opposite -- healthy relationships -- start preparing yourself to avoid the unhealthy and get the healthy.
This means mastering these four qualities in yourself first, so you can offer the benefits to your future girlfriends.
Here are the two stages broken into steps...
Stage 1: Mastering Yourself
First, understanding how attraction works for women and how to create it through your communication.
Second, being able to identify when and how women cross your boundaries and how to communicate it's unacceptable in a calm, cool way.
Third, having the ability to develop a strong interpersonal connection by knowing and noticing how women are really responding to you inside their own minds, contrary to how they may behave on the surface.
And fourth, learning to become a great lover so she will never be left unsatisfied, and thus, increase her temptations.
Stage 2: Finding a Woman Who's Mastered Herself
First, learn to identify what you're looking for, these qualities: a woman who understands how to attract men and keep them attracted, doesn't accept disrespect, understands how men think and respond to her from within, and finally knows how to please a man in the bedroom.
In other words, a woman who knows how to please you... and knows that she knows.
Second, date as many women as you need to, screening and eliminating the ones that don't fit that mold, until you find one that is an exact match.
Of course, dating many women is also part of the process of mastering these qualities in yourself.
When you understand the definition of unhealthy relationships and you refuse to settle for anything other than a healthy relationship, you also realize that you're not going to find it by chance.
You need a plan. And I've just laid out that basic plan.
But if you want the detailed instructions so you can avoid taking the trial and error method, wasting precious time, my program teaches you not just EXACTLY how to develop these qualities and understandings in yourself, but how screen and find a woman who has already developed these same qualities in herself.
