Dating Tips for Men:
Killer Attitudes
There are so many dating tips for men out there. But few, I believe, really get down to and touch the real issues needed for long-term success...
... the way the ones that follow will!
Though helpful and practical on many levels, the kind of dating tips for men that tell you exactly what to 'say' and what to 'do' to get a woman can actually get in your way.
And that's the real kicker!
They tell you how to ACT to be successful instead of how to THINK -- your ATTITUDE. And the ONLY reason those actions or behaviors get results in the first place is because of the attitude underneath them.
But if you don't get the attitude and you try to place the actions over top, you'll come across as incongruent... and fail.
However, if you understand the attitude, your actions will be CONGRUENT and you won't have to worry about 'getting it right'. You'll succeed effortlessly.
So let's get to the real issues by focusing on how you think because...
Attitude Towards Women is Next to Everything!
Many people tend to believe that how they normally perceive the events in their lives is reality.
But the truth is, there's something between what we experience and how we interpret that which we experience. All our opinions are formed around it!
And that something is our attitude.
It's like a filter that only lets in what we expect. So if you want something that is incongruent with your attitude, you won't let it happen no matter how badly you want it.
The world has a tendency to reflect our attitude back at us.
So by changing your attitude, not only does the world seem to turn into a different place, your behavior towards women changes too.
Since there are attitudes that women find very attractive and repulsive, the best dating tips for men focus on eliminating the 'negative' attitudes because when they're gone...
... you reveal an attractive attitude laying dormant underneath the garbage. And then your actions reflect it naturally if you have the courage to be truly honest with yourself.
But let me warn you now, in these dating tips for men I'm going to be very up front and blunt. So if you're not prepared to face yourself, stop reading now.
For here are the attitudes that will kill your success with women and the reason why guys have them...
Killer Attitude #1:
Women Aren’t
Mean;
You’re Just Desperate
Do you think women are mean, bitchy, or cruel?
If you do, you're desperate.
When you're desperate, the world tends to reflect cruel women back at you.
Human Nature says, "When you approach and ask someone for something out of desperation, you communicate your worth is dependent on them. This causes them discomfort and their instinctive response is to get away from you as soon as possible, often treating you the way you've presented yourself -- worthlessly."
So if you continue to bring desperation to women, because of the discomfort it creates, they'll continue to give you attitude as a kind of 'defense mechanism'.
And if you become accustomed to getting this response from women (which you're responsible for), the tendency is to adopt a NEEDY attitude.
Killer Attitude #2:
Women Aren’t
Inferior;
You’re Just Prejudiced
Do you think women are weak, dumb, or inferior to men?
If you do, you're prejudiced.
When you're prejudiced, the world tends to reflect inferior women back at you.
Human Nature says, "When you approach someone with prejudice, you communicate that you think you're superior to them. This generates an unspoken resentment and their instinctive response is to cater to your high ideals while refusing to reveal who they really are."
So if you continually bring your prejudiced superiority to women, because proving you wrong is a waste of their time and would cause them even more grief, they'll continue to cater to you and secretly despise you.
And if you become used to getting this kind of response from women, the tendency is to adopt a CONCEITED attitude.
Killer Attitude #3:
Women Aren’t
Manipulative;
You’re Just Spineless
Do you think women are manipulative and deceitful?
If you do, you're spineless.
When you're spineless, the world tends to reflect manipulative women back at you.
Human Nature says, "When you approach someone with spinelessness, you communicate that you take things personally. This causes them to have an untrustworthy feeling about you and their instinctive response is to dominate you."
So as long as you continue to bring your spinelessness to women, because they feel they can't trust you, they'll continue to take liberties with you as they don't know where you stand.
And if you become desensitized to getting this response from women because it's normal to you, the tendency is to adopt a VICITM attitude.
Final Dating Tips for Men
There you have it! Real dating tips for men; the poor attitudes that will be sure to kill your chances with women.
Now, it seems like most guys have one (or more) of these negative attitudes towards women.
Pinpointing which ones apply to you is the starting point, for then you know where your attitude needs adjustments.
And what you'll find is that, underneath all these attitudes, there is a feeling of inadequacy -- or a feeling of unworthiness. And the different attitudes merely serve as 'character armor' to protect those small feelings.
So here are, in my opinion, the most important dating tips for men...
To those who are needy, look inside yourself for validation instead of women's approval.
To those who are conceited (which tends to be my weak spot), you need to get over yourself and realize you're not as great as you think you are.
And to those who play victim, take responsibility for yourself and realize that blaming others or outside circumstances for your problems is self-defeating.
