Curing Self Consciousness
by Taking Simple Actions
How do you go about curing self consciousness? After all, since self consciousness is the opposite of self confidence, and it's ultimately self confidence that allows you to develop your dream Dating Life, no matter how much information you read about women and dating...
... you won't see results.
Perhaps I'm stating the obvious, but if you find yourself fairly knowledgeable about how to communicate with women, but still, you're life isn't transforming yet, I assure you -- tackle self consciousness and everything will start happening all at once.
For those who find themselves self conscious during regular life, you are probably well aware of the symptoms: shallow breathing, lack of voice control, poor eye contact, and awkward moving limbs.
It's like you're frozen, immobilized.
It's like you have a seemingly disjointed connection between you're inner self -- that great, personable guy you know yourself to be -- and how you express yourself, as well as the way women respond to you.
Curing self consciousness doesn't happen overnight. Since it is a process, it takes time. But if you work towards removing it by applying the following simple actions, your world will slowly begin to change.
Where Does Self Consciousness Come From?
Understanding what causes it is the first step to curing self consciousness.
Self consciousness is an effect, not a cause. And by understanding what causes it and how to stop that cause will naturally allow all self consciousness to disappear.
And it's replaced by self confidence. Then you begin to move easily, speak well, and make healthy eye contact. In other words, unleash your potential and be your best self.
So what causes self consciousness?
The simple answer is that it's caused by the fear of criticism. By having thoughts about what a woman will think about who we are, what we do, or how we act will cause all those nasty symptoms to show up.
Remove that fear. And guess what? You got it. The symptoms vanish!
Just how do you remove this fear? After all, when we're self conscious, all we tend to notice are the symptoms. We generally don't always have an awareness of exactly what thoughts are running through our minds.
Start Small... and Build
You're here to learn how to date some of the hottest women you can find, right? And if you're like most guys, the hotter a woman is, the more self conscious you're going to become around her.
If you think about what people do to get what they want, how they build their success, most times, they don't go straight from their desire to their goal.
Why would any guy expect instant success with women? Instant confidence... instant 'karma'?
No. Instead, they take it one step at a time.
For example, think about any famous actor. When he started, did he think to himself, "I'm going to go audition for the new Steven Spielberg film tomorrow."
No way. First, he looked for information. He got good advice, perhaps stopping by at a local agency. Then he enrolled in acting courses and got experience and guidance.
Then what?
He shopped around for an agent. His agent got him auditions. He went to hundreds of them, and finally started getting small roles. Perhaps after a few, he finally gets a guest spot on a sitcom or television drama.
This leads to small roles in independent films. And then larger roles.
After having experience and exposure through feature films, he'll likely start getting more calls. Then the major roles finally start coming his way.
We're talking years of hard work here.
What does all this have to do with curing self consciousness?
Start at the bottom. Start where you are today.
Start Curing Self Consciousness Today!
Unless you're incredibly bold -- in which case why you're reading this, I don't know -- don't start by approaching the most attractive women you can find.
Of course, if you got it, go for it. By all means!
But why not start smaller? Depending on where you're at, start talking to strangers, whether young, old, male, female, attractive, unattractive -- it doesn't matter.
It can make it easier in the beginning to start with the ones you see as less "intimidating".
You'll likely find you fear criticism much less from certain people. Why not begin with them? If you're aiming at curing self consciousness, these people are godsends! Start initiating conversations with them for the sole purpose of overcoming this fear?
What you'll notice about guys who are good with women is that they have no problems talking to strangers or anyone. They enjoy it.
Along with talking to strangers, you can talk to clerks and cashiers. They're paid to talk to you! Why not take advantage of it?
Curing self consciousness, to a great degree, has to do with experience. Just going out there and starting conversations with people and learning to stop caring about what their opinions are of you.
In my own journey, I've also found the Alexander Technique to be extremely helpful.
And when you have no problem starting conversations with, say strange elderly men or women, then start talking with less attractive women.
When that gets easy, move the bar higher. Start talking to cute women. Then attractive women. And suddenly, you're approaching the smoking hot women without fear or doubt.
Curing self consciousness is the beginning. Aim big, but start small -- if you have to.
Take action everyday. Make it an aim to start a conversation with one stranger every single day. That's 365 in a year. Do that, and week by week, your self consciousness begins disappear...
... until it vanishes completely.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
