Are You Playing her
Contract Therapist?
What does a contract therapist do? He spends a period of time listening to someone's problems. Then offers suggestions or feedback. The topics of the discussions are generally not very positive.
So what? Just what does a contract therapist have to do with women and dating?
Well, this is exactly the kind relationship some guys develop with the women they're interested in. And it sets them up for failure, without realizing it!
What's the motivation behind it? Why would someone do something that prevented them from getting what they want?
A BIG Misconception about Being a Good Guy
Guys think that if they demonstrate just how much they care about a woman -- by listening to her emotional or self-esteem issues and then giving suggestions -- the woman will realize just how much he cares and...
... fall madly in love with him.
But the truth is, this will never happen. Ever.
There was a time when I would play a contract therapist with the women I was interested in. And if you've done it or do it, you probably got the same response when -- and if you decided to tell her how much you cared for her, which was...
"I don't want to ruin our friendship."
Friendship? Friendship! Frustrating, huh? After all that time invested... and all she wants is to be friends.
From there, things turn sour. And it is as if you actually played a contract therapist in her life -- only you didn't get paid.
Listen up... the simple math is listening to a woman's problems EQUALS friendship! So never play a woman's contract therapist, especially if you want a romantic relationship.
Therapy Sessons are Unattractive to Women
Attraction is a state of mind that most times you have to lead a woman into experiencing. Many women tend to DEFAULT to chaotic states of mind like worrying, complaining, feeling guilty, etc.
If you communicate that you accept a woman experiencing these states of mind when she's WITH you -- this means playing contract therapist by listening to her problems -- you're teaching her to view you as a friend...
... and friend's DON'T get romantic or sexual.
Women learn, unconsciously, to associate these negative states WITH you. And they almost automatically go into them every time they see you.
This is the way you setup the relationship, no matter how unintentionally.
But remember that you have the choice and the power to accept or reject undesirable states of mind women experience when they're with you by refusing to play a contract therapist. And you do this through your communication.
Never Play a Woman’s Contract Therapist!
Ever. This is your right.
You don't have to accept any kind of behavior from women that you don't want in your life. After all, who really wants to fill their life thinking about more problems. Most of us have enough of those.
Why take on someone else's?
By refusing to play therapist by NOT listening to her problems, you eliminate the negativity, leaving room for positive states... like attraction.
Keep in mind also that the longer you listen to a woman's personal problems, the stronger that habit becomes. And the more difficult it will be for you to change that association.
So learn to cut it off as soon as it arises! Not five minutes later. Not weeks later. And God forbid, not years later!
Then and there! Whenever it shows up in an interaction.
Remember, NEVER play contract therapist... UNLESS you want to be friends.
How to Become a "Natural" with Women
Your Friend,
Jay Julio
