Secret of Complimenting a Woman the Right Way
Most guys are taught that complimenting a woman is one way to win her over. But if you've ever complimented a woman, what kind or reaction did you get from her?
If you really tuned into it, I bet you got a somewhat 'disgusted' response from her.
Sometimes it's obviously apparent. Other times, it's subtle.
So if complimenting women is such a turn-off, should you stop doing it altogether to help you win a woman's heart?
Not necessarily.
But before you compliment a woman again, I would recommend that you first understand the reason complimenting a woman can be repulsive to her.
Then, when you fully realize why compliments can repel women, you'll also know when they won't. So here's the reason why and the secret of complimenting women the 'right way'...
Flattery Communicates Neediness
Complimenting a woman is usually used by guys as a type of flattery.
It's as if they feel they have to PROVE how much they like a woman in order for her to become receptive -- when, in Human Nature, it's actually the quite the opposite.
And even though trying to flatter a woman with compliments may be unconscious, what they're really trying to do is bribe her into liking them.
"I was nice to you -- now I expect you to go out with me," is the subtext being communicated.
And women who have had enough experience with guys trying to pick them up can spot this quickly. In fact, most women -- meaning the ones you want -- will see the agenda immediately...
... even if you don't -- but you do now, right?
Of course, the same goes for buying flowers for a woman before you've been going out at least 3 months or buying a drink for a woman in a bar.
But is there a way of complimenting with sincerity?
Absolutely!
How to Compliment Women the Right Way
Though I don't recommend complimenting a woman until after you've gotten physical with her as a rule, it shouldn't be avoided altogether.
But, like you learned above, insincerity and coming from a hidden agenda is the reason women find compliments repulsive.
Though I go into more specifics of complimenting the 'right way' in Cool Guy with Women, compliment women on their character rather than their appearance.
And not only that, talk about what YOU like.
The real secret of complimenting a woman is to SHARE your tastes and opinions with her. Instead of coming from a place of trying to impress a woman with a compliment, you come from a place of what you enjoy or admire about her AS A PERSON.
Very different. Here's what's really going on...
Complimenting with an agenda is about YOU getting what you want from her: approval, acceptance, sex, whatever.
Complimenting with sincerity is about affirming and appreciating HER 'personhood' and simply enjoying her company.
Make sense? Hope so.
