Best Dating Advice:
Many or None!

Thinking about the best dating advice I've ever received, which I later found to be the most useful, is a simple concept. It's the idea that during any period in Life, you either date many women at the same time... or you date none.

Period.

There are three states your dating life can take on. You have three options to choose from: date many women, date one woman, or date none.

The middle ground, however, is a dangerous place to be.

Yet, for many guys, this seems to be the road they take. This is where they WANT to be -- or at least, this is where they think they want to be.

Why?

Having been in all three situations, and looking back, it's so clear that I was actually least happiest while dating only one, and generally the most happy while dating a few at the same time. And since I have ambitions, dating none was great for it left me more time to focus on myself.

In fact, I'd much sooner date none than one.

But why do so many guys tend to focus on one girl at a time?

Because she's the only option they give themselves. How can you even entertain the idea of seeing someone else when, in your mind, there is no one else? And when we don't have choices or don't give ourselves options, there's a tendency to start looking at the world as a scarce place.

This is only a matter of mind, for there are millions of other women out there. No woman's special. We only make certain women special.

I've found that I became the most docile while dating one woman. I was more willing to accept any compensation. I'm not talking about just dating, but from Life itself.

Dating one woman leaves us susceptible to accepting mediocrity in Life. I believe the reason is one woman distracts us from ourselves, while many women or none actually keeps us focused and motivated.

With one woman, it becomes so easy to place the focus on her. This sets the stage for clinginess, jealousy, and desperation -- symptoms sure to drive her away anyway. Meanwhile, this state of mind closes our awareness to the truth that our lives are passing us by as we let our assets, like time, whither.

Time that could be used to invest in our talents. Instead that time is filled with idle day-dreaming about a single woman.

But with many women in your life, your focus is divided amongst them. You actually stop thinking about them -- unless you're with them. And because of it, because none are at the center, you become indifferent to any particular one being in your life. It makes no difference whether they're there or not.

Ironically, it is this condition that makes them find you most attractive. So instead of driving one woman away, you have trouble getting rid of the ones you don't want.

And with no women, your focus falls fully and completely on yourself!

I've found the real secret to this advice is to protect your thoughts. Both, with dating many or none, your thoughts belong to you. But with dating one woman... oh, how easy it is to give your thoughts to her.

And if you're giving your thoughts to her, you don't own your life.

She does, even if she wants nothing to do with you.

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Jay Julio