How to Create Your Own
Approaching Women Lines
Memorizing canned approaching women lines may give you a feeling of security. But where is that security when you go out to apply them?
Why not learn how to create your own pickup lines on the fly, according the situations you find yourself in.
The purpose of approaching women lines is to help you meet women, right? But if you're a shy guy like I used to be, you may find that memorizing pickup lines can actually work against you.
Let me know if you can identify with me here...
You find a pick-up line you like. Maybe you rehearse it to yourself out loud. You practice delivering it over and over again. In fact, you practice it so much that the words start to lose their meaning. Then what happens? You start worrying about what effect it's going to have on a woman.
What's really going on here? You're hesitating. And it's the hesitation that will put a kink in your confidence.
Hesitation is the real enemy when it comes to using approaching women lines and meeting women.
Let's remove it!
How do you overcome this barrier? How do you overcome hesitation? Simply, you come up with a line in the moment. See, when an idea comes into your mind and you act on it IMMEDIATELY by speaking, there's no room for hesitation.
This removes the worry of whether or not it's going to be received well, or whether or not you're going to deliver it effectively.
So how do you learn how to create your own approaching women lines in the moment?
Give Your Attention to YOUR Experience
You've heard it before... be in the moment. And it's being in the moment that ultimately gives power to your approaching women lines.
This is number one! We all know that, right?
But how do you place yourself in the moment? How do you get out of your head? Isn't that the reason for learning pickup lines in the first place?
I think the key to understanding how to become present is to notice why or what stops us from being in the moment. So just what is it?
The answer is simple, and I think we all know it at some level. It's fearing not being welcomed or accepted. And when we fear not getting approval or making mistakes, we start creating negative pictures in our heads of what could happen.
Placing yourself in the moment then is a process of noticing and stopping yourself first from responding by creating these negative pictures, and then stopping the thoughts themselves.
Then the negative pictures don't even have the opportunity to materialize.
You do this by paying attention to what you're experiencing in every moment. It definitely takes discipline and I've found the Alexander Technique can be incredibly helpful with this.
But the most instantly and effective practical route to take is to simply ACT in spite of your fears and...
Speak Your Mind!
Aside from a friendly "Hi", I find the best approaching women lines have to do with talking about YOUR experience -- not hers, surprisingly. And when you've given your attention to what you're experiencing, this comes naturally.
Just start talking about what you're doing, where you are, or the situation you find yourself in.
Make comments about it... with passion and enthusiasm.
Have you ever noticed that guys who are good with women actually tend to talk about themselves and their own lives from the beginning of an interaction?
But what's the key? They're NOT boring. Their passion is contagious.
Pickup lines on the other hand, tend to put you in a position where you're trying to welcome yourself into a woman's experience -- it gives HER the power to reject you. Even being friendly and asking a woman questions tend to do this.
Why not welcome her into YOUR experience instead? How? Speak your mind!
By speaking your mind, you're not asking her for permission to talk to her. In fact, since you're not even asking for her to respond to you, you communicate quite the opposite...
... you're giving her permission to communicate with you!
And there's something about when you make the assumption that what you have to say is important, and you talk about it with conviction, people not only listen, they find it compelling.
It's incredibly attractive to women.
So How Do You Come Up with Your
Own Approaching Women Lines?
Always pay attention to your surroundings and develop opinions about them. Practice doing this wherever you are, even if no one's around... just inside your own mind.
Look at things -- look at what's happening around you -- and form opinions about what you experience.
But never let yourself get sucked into negativity. Instead, form opinions based a this criteria...
Look for things that are interesting or different.
Look for things that either excite you or you really appreciate.
Look for things that generate curiosity.
What this does is prepare you for creating your own approaching women lines on the fly. All you have to do is start thinking aloud. In other words, speaking your mind.
It's like switching the speakers of your mind to on.
